Visiting/visitors with newborn…venting
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I just had my third 2.5 months ago and I’ve had so much anxiety and easily overwhelmed. With my parents, I’m not afraid of telling them about themselves with my boundaries but I have a hard time with others. And it frustrates me so much.
@HJ Renee I don't know if you've experienced this but I noticed it's the older people that are the worst. My husband's family is mostly 60+ and there's not many kids. So they act more entitled to my child.
Overwhelmed definitely! My little one was born just before Thanksgiving too so I feel your pain! But I’ve recently found peace in just standing firm on what interactions I feel are appropriate for my baby. Yes it’s uncomfortable, but at the end of the day she came out of me and I’m doing what’s best for her. Even if my bf doesn’t agree he stands behind me because who gon check me boo?! 😂 These mama bear claws don’t discriminate it’s baby over everyone and what reasoning can anyone give that’s more important than the welfare of my baby-none! If we don’t stand up for them who will 💜 you got this mama, do what you feel in your heart is right for your baby 🙏🏾
I have with my in laws… 🙄 my MIL stayed with us for 2 weeks and she kept nagging at my middle child(stuff had also been building up about her ALWAYS nagging at him and I just let it build up until I exploded on her) and I snapped on her and I didn’t talk to her much the rest of her stay. My mom is also like that but I’m not afraid to put her in her place.
@Shaina you’re ABSOLUTELY right I’m being wayyyy too nice!
Not unreasonable at all. My family has been super respectful about boundaries, although they have touched a few times without thinking. We kindly remind them (both the hubby and I) and they’re cool with that! Husbands family…. Not so much. Very much passive aggressive “I don’t like the no touching rule but my opinion doesn’t matter. Everyone else doesn’t like it either but of course our opinions don’t matter.” Husbands mom doesn’t even respect me saying let the baby sleep lol. Went to lunch and she kept pushing the cover off my baby, shining light into her face risking waking her up (at our first lunch out). I kept telling her no, let my daughter sleep. She kept playing the innocent and saying “I’m just looking why can’t I look.” Having disrespectful family members and anxiety in postpartum is no joke!
Overwhelmed yes. My in-laws are very overbearing. My MIL decided to kiss my 24 hour old baby in the mouth and I saw red. I'm still not over it 2 months later. I think my in laws have learned they can't ask me because I'll straight up say no. But they will ask my husband who sucks at setting boundaries. We didn't go to any holiday things this year.