Feel like my baby hates me
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I genuinely say to my partner that our little one hates me. He'll cry and cry but as soon as my partner holds him he stops. I also haven't breastfed so completely understand the guilt! I'd like to think that rather than hating me it's more like my partner is a treat for him because I'm with him all day then when my partner gets home it's the novelty of someone else? That's what I like to think anyway 😅 it does sometimes make me feel like I'm not needed though, anyone can give him a bottle and I can't soothe him so there's no real need for me 🤷🏻♀️
It has absolutely nothing with your choice to bottle feed i bottle fed from day one and felt so guilty by the time he was 4 weeks that i attempted to build a supply for him but within maybe 2 days i could feel my mental health going to shit and remembered why i bottle fed in the first place, as much as you probably wont believe me your baby definitely doesn’t hate you your probably his favourite person in the world please speak to someone about your mental health they wont take your baby away i promise my first health visitor appointment i basically told them i dont love/havent bonded with my baby and they never questioned my ability to look after him the fact that you feel guilty shows how much you care and how good of a mum you are to him some mums just need a little extra help at first and they know that, the sooner you manage to get on top of your mental health the sooner you can just enjoy your baby x
My baby was like this and she is exclusively breastfed. They go through few developmental leaps that make them extremely fussy. My baby is now 12 weeks and certainly has improved. Someone on this app suggested a app called the wonder weeks where you can see the type of leaps they go through and what type of fussy symptoms they show. Having this really helped me. So I would say don't worry about not breastfeeding. I am sure you are doing amazing and it will get better x
This definitely sounds like PND & you should 100% reach out to support, you’ve done nothing wrong and need the support
I feel like my baby hates me one day and is ok the next. I think definitely down to developmental leaps and often being overtired/ overstimulated. Do you follow wake windows and naps? I know he's still young but it really helps change the game if you have an over tired baby
Honestly, I never related more to a post than this. I completely understand how you feel and how difficult it is. My baby has started doing this thing where she will scream unless I hold her in one specific position. However, if my partner or mother in law holds her she is happy as ever. I am also not breast feeding and I completely understand the feeling of guilt, but I am learning to come to terms with this and understanding that it wasn’t meant to be this time around. What I have found that works in the night I have skin to skin contact with my baby girl as if I was breast feeding, I let her sleep on my chest for a little bit and this has become our time nobody else’s. This has really helped me. You are doing a brilliant job, keep your head up. As they say it does get easier