My SIL is obsessed with my child
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I would be anxious too. Don't try to solve these problems on your own and don't try to ignore them. Talk to your partner openly about how your feel without attacking his family. Ask him to support you. Tell him what you need from him. This is a sensitive time and you need more empathy and support from his side. Be as concrete as possible so that he knows what he can do to help you.
Hi girl you’re not alone. I have a very similar situation, my “MIL” yelled at me numerous times freshly post partum, my “BIL” yanked my baby out of my hands and screamed at me “you’re a terrible mother” 😅 … I’m planning to get back into therapy immediately
Oh that sounds awful. Can you husband not speak up to her and his family on your behalf? It feels like his place and something he should do.
Ask your husband to intervene or tell him his sil won’t be able to visit
Absolutely not I’d leave him and everyone alone the whole family . As soon as I heard the not capable to be a mother
I’m sooo glad my sil and mil know how crazy I am. You just gotta spazz on her ass one good time, she’ll get the picture. And if anyone tries to confront you, I’d spazz on they ass too. Set boundaries. That baby is depending on you ❤️
@Brittney right I would have completely lost it …
@Audrey girlllll I sometimes envy the patience of others because I am not built that way 😂
@Brittney at all cuz behind my baby everyone can get it 😂😂😂
She’s not right who even does that? Stand your ground and tell her no! I wouldn’t care if everyone went mad at me she needs to learn boundaries and fast! This is your son not hers and I’d remind everyone of that fact! I’d lose my shit at that point
That's not right, you apologised to her when she was screaming and yelling at you and clearly isn't listening to you and respecting the boundaries you set. I think your sister in law is mentally unwell and needs help. I would speak to my partner about it all, I feel you and your little ones should be his priority now so he should of stuck up for you. No one had the right to call you a terrible mother, what you do and provide for your son I'd your business and you know what's best so just ignore otherwise. No you shouldn't feel threatened and unable to leave your home for a stroll with your son, you are free to go and come as you please. You could get a restraining order and ban he form coming near you and your house if you feel this is necessary
I'm so sorry you have gone through this. Your husband should be advocating for you. Your feelings are valid. I don't really have any advice but you've been really strong for what you have put up with so far. 😞
Sorry your went through that! At the end of its YOUR baby and what you say goes. And then making you hand your baby over to her? …weird. I would’ve said F all of you , I’m going home with MY baby.
Oh hell no. I wouldnt have given them the baby no matter what. Absolutely not.
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Set your boundary and don’t budge. No matter what. If it causes friction it doesn’t matter. This is YOUR child.
Not overreacting, I would've immediately gone no contact with her from that first interaction but that's me lol
Gosh, is your SIL my SIL?! I feel for you, I'm just glad mine lives in another country as I couldn't deal with that, it's bad enough when she comes to stay. She ruined the first few weeks of having for me after I had my first born. She stayed 4 weeks (was meant to be 3 but then conveniently missed her flight) during which she and my partner fell out. I tried to keep the peace but obviously upset and hormonal too (5wk pp at this point) so was crying and she turned round and said to me 'i don't know why you're crying, I should be the one crying'. I never told my husband this as I didn't want to fuel the fire that was already going on and I just wanted peace but now 2.5 yr on I really wish I did. She would make herself the victim and guilt trip my husband with 'but I don't know when I'll see her again' when he would talk to her about overstepping and being so possessive of my child. Really hope all gets sorted for you and next time this kind of shit happens make sure your husband is on your side. Big hugs.
Thank you to everyone who replied and gave me advice I also appreciate it very much . I guess venting it out made me feel Abit better and seeing your support . I’m glad I’m not overthinking this situation. This is only one thing that’s happened I can write a novel of what else my in-laws have did to me during my postpartum stage . But this one weighs the heaviest .
I also apologise for everyone that has experienced a similar issue if not worse . We all got this 🫶. Sending love ❤️. Our babies require us to be strong for them . Don’t let anyone put you down and step up if anyone tries to interfere with your boundaries as soon as it happens
It sounds like an unhealthy obsession and your mil and partner havnt helped by making you apologise for her crazy behaviour who shouts at a new mother who is only trying to allow their baby to sleep? Sounds like she needs therapy but you probably do to as it’s still weighing on you and affecting you now. Have you spoken to your husband about how he didn’t stand up for you has affected you now?