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@Stephanie Thank you for commenting! Both need the proper recovery! After giving birth bc your vagina is in pain after pushing out the baby and getting some stitches you got to sit up on and off all the time to feed your baby not to mention the pain that you get in your boobs and crazy hormones going all over the place. Shoulder surgery on the other hand need his proper recovery but it’s not that intensive you can use the other arm and could sit up without any discomfort in my opinion
Two wrongs don't make a right. He should have helped you recover after birth, but getting revenge now won't help you or make you feel better. Let him recover fully. You'll need that shoulder in good condition as you both get older. 😉 He can move the changing pad down to the floor, so lifting your child for diaper changes isn't an issue.
I have a rotator cuff tear, shoulder recovery is not to be taken lightly at all. Trust me. One wrong move & it’s all hell!
If it was rotator cuff related, any lifting could potentially ruin the repair and lead to another surgery. And another surgery may not even be possible. Those are very very delicate in the beginning weeks
As an outside person who didnt get the surgery, we (including you) are not allowed to have an opinion on the pain or discomfort. After mine, I literally could not get up on my own from laying down for days. My husband had to help me to the bathroom every single time. He had to wash my hair for me, comb it, and braid it. It is truly the worst to not feel supported by our partners when we need it, however, that's no reason to devalue their pain/discomfort.
As someone who had a big tumor removed from my anterior shoulder blade and wasnt able to move my upper arm/shoulder for almost a week post Op... And as someone who had a baby... Its definitely much easier to pick up a baby after giving birth than it is post shoulder surgery (especially depending on the surgery) Yes, he 100% should have been more supportive of you postpartum, but putting weight on recovery could cause more problems that would hinder more in the future. That also applies to post partum recovery. I am definitely not trying to take away from that, you fully deserved more support during your recovery too!