Toxic (at times) Relationship. Seeking buddy to vent to

Trigger warning: potential DV My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years and together for 8 years. I’m in my late 30s and he’s in his early 40s. Our baby is nearly 1 year old. I’m posting here because I don’t really have friends to vent to. My relationship with my husband can be toxic at times. But both of us have no intention to split up. We are both intending to stay married for life. I am looking for a friend I can vent so/ a safe space/ someone who “gets it” and who won’t be triggered (I don’t want to harm anyone by sharing). Most people just say “you should split up. That’s toxic” and pass judgment. Or they push me away because it’s “negative” and uncomfortable for them. I don’t force my relationship issues on anyone. And I’m a very upbeat, functional person. It’s just when we get into it, I could really use a lady friend to vent to. I do have to clarify, while he’s not physically abusive in the punching me sense, he can be destructive with punching walls & throwing things. He does have a temper. If I approach him In the heat of an argument, he could potentially put a painful pressure point on me or grab my neck. Anyone who might be triggered by this, I need to give a heads up about this. We don’t always argue. It’s quite often we will be on fine terms or even great terms. I know for some people it can be upsetting to hear a lot of bad things about a man and then the woman just suddenly is like, everything is great. And it can be so confusing. That’s why I’m saying all of this. I’m trying to find someone to vent to who isn’t going to judge. Anyway, hope this post is allowed. Thanks 🙏