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I meant to say babies are the greatest blessing** bc they definitely are a blessing but the greatest is pushing it ngl

Girl this sounds like severe PPD. I felt the same way when I first had my daughter. I loved her so much but was so miserable at the same time. I did not truly fall in love with motherhood until a couple years ago( My child is 4 now) when I finally put effort into being treated for it. Unfortunately I waited until it was too late, and I had to check myself into a hospital last year over Christmas because my mental health completely collapsed. If you ever need someone to talk to please please dint hesitate to reach out

I agree with this

i’m currently pregnant and everytime i complain about how i miss who i was before pregnancy or miss my body everyone always tells me “but it’s so beautiful bc your growing a baby” like i get that but that doesn’t make me hate my body any less. yes it’s a wonderful thing that i can grow a whole human in me but im still severely down about the fact my entire body has changed during this pregnancy. i don’t look the way i used to and it’s disappointing. i love my baby and so excited to have him but i still don’t like the way my body has changed

I felt the same way so you’re not alone at all. There should be no shame in this, some mothers love it right away and some never do. If you’re still doing your best and your child is well cared for, then you and your baby will be okay. Get some professional help if you can, but in the meantime, getting support from other moms on this app is a step in the right direction. ❤️

It gets better babe hang in there <3 if you need someone to talk to I’m here no judgement at all

@Alex yesss like can we normalize it not being the “greatest experience in the world” for everyone.

I totally understand where you are coming from, especially if a woman is not made for motherhood or wants to have children. Sometimes, there are other fulfillments in life that people would class as the greatest experience not just motherhood.

I remember how excited I was to get pregnant. My whole life all I wanted to be was a mom and everyone said being pregnant was so wonderful. Within the first month I felt jipped. Every day I felt like there was something wrong with my health, like when you have a cold. And I felt so badly about myself because I didn't always think it was wonderful! So now I tell people it is tough, good and bad days. Why is it that the previous generations were never honest? They sugar coated everything and if you were sad or unhappy we'll just suck it up. I'm grateful to live in a time when women are encouraged to be real and authentic. Toxic positivity is real. There's a reason it never helped anyone. Please please all of you women out there ...you are enough just the way you are. If you are really struggling reach out and get support. Having a community of real people to help raise your child is so helpful. Look into PPD but also choose advice from people who aren't topically positive ❤️

Toxically

naw i feel all of this im 3 years deep in the game and i still dont see what this blessing and magical feeling people are talking about…

Not the greatest experience for everyone is RIGHT. There are so many factors. Babies are HARD work, relentless, thanless, painful, lonely, your hormones are working against you, you lose yourself and whats left of your sanity. The love is the greatest love, YES! But this is not the greatest experience for all moms nor should we he shamed for speaking about it. I am so sorry mama, but we feel you

Yeh, I feel like it’s better and more fulfilling with a partner who understands and knows how to treat their woman. Especially one who’s the mother of their child. I do hope you start to feel better, it is hard regardless. Just ignore those type of comments because frfr those comments from 1 people who like to put on a show or 2 people who’ve had help left and right. So. Don’t be too hard on yourself. I’m sure you’re doing a wonderful job and it’ll get easier as they get older. Just show your baby love even at your lowest and you’ll see the love radiant from them to you. I’m a single mom and have went through A LOT and have felt many many different both negative and positive emotions. However at the end of the day man, seeing my sons faces light up when they see me or run to me for hugs, our tickle fights. All that. It’s clique but I wouldn’t be able to do all this without THAT. 💜🥹

I feel like it’s always older women who say it to me. Like their kids have flown the nest and they’ve forgotten all the hard parts and only remember the cute buntings and tickle fights and they see mothers and project their distorted memories of their youthful vitality. I just smile and say ‘yeahhh.’ But it’s not all sunshine and rainbows for any mother. If there is a mother who hasn’t aged into forgetting that then they’re lying to keep up with effing trad wives or kardashians or whatever.