New born baby not sleeping at all at night - up screaming unless in our arms -please help and give advice 🤞🏼🤍

Firstly congratulations! I found swaddling helped my lb x

Congratulations babies normal only cry for a few thing nappy or bottle are you holding her a lot during the day? I know it’s hard to put her down you just want cuddles but it’s better it long run

@Emma so this is after we have attended her normal needs both bottle and nappy she still just won’t settle unless in mine or my partners arms, I’m not currently swaddling her or anything just not sure why she’s not settling. She just seems to cry until she’s with one of us x

I’d deffo try swaddle or sleeping bag I know it seems silly when they are soooo small but it’s the only thing that settled my daughter as she was still been held. These next few weeks will be sooo hard but trust me you’ve got it in you even when you don’t think you do! And sleep deprivation feels like it’s literally gonna kill you but somehow we keep going and smash it!! Please do try put baby down if you can even if she is crying so you know she’s safe while your both so exhausted it’s the safest thing for her accidents happen soooo easily trust me! Babies only cry when they need nappy or bottle, winding of comfort as long as she knows your there regular and all those things are tended too she should become easier to settle but it’s not easy you’ve got this!!! I thought I was gonna die the first few weeks of post partum, ready feeding and no sleep it’s horrific but also best time of your life! Good luck send me a message if you want a chat I needed someone to chat so bad my first few!

Mine was the same. He started sleeping in his next to me when we used a sleeping bag!

This is totally normal for a newborn and it’s not spoken about enough, you are not going wrong anywhere. Most babies will want to contact sleep for the first two weeks and won’t want to sleep anywhere else. They’ve just come out of your nice warm tummy, hard cold cots are typically unappealing. This is often why the first couple of weeks are so tough. Things that can help is taking shifts with your partner holding her while the other gets some sleep. Even 90min sleep at a time can really help get you through those first few weeks. Secondly you can look into cosleeping and the safe 7. If she can tolerate some stretches in her bed, white noise is helpful as they’re used to a lot of noise while in the womb. A hot water bottle to warm her bed before she goes in it can also be helpful. Sometimes after being on your warm body it’s shock to go into her bed. I disagree with some of the other comments and would say that when they’re this little they can just cry because they want comfort…

…irrelevant of being changed and fed. The first couple of weeks are really tough but they get better rapidly. Focus on doing what you can to get little bits of sleep safely to get you through. You will find what works for your little one quickly though. Congratulations 😊

I found this for the first 6 days of my little one’s life! We tried swaddling, Moses basket, next to me, feeding etc… eventually ended up Cosleeping using lullaby trusts cosleeping advice, after a few nights he just randomly started sleeping well alone in his next to me x

I just held mine until asleep and tried transferring. If he cried, we started over. When i got tired, I'd swap with partner for a spell. Sometimes to change it up, I'd have partner watch *me* whilst I slept with the baby on me (to prevent an accident). He's a gamer so that suited him fine, he'd sit next to us and game and we'd get some sleep 😂 after a while, little one went to sleep in any spot in any condition but mine was a great sleeper, especially after we figured out why he was so gassy and uncomfortable (he has CMPA). Newborn phase is a roller coaster because all they do is eat and sleep but u don't do any of those things cus u can't put them down 😅

The first few days are so hard because of the tiredness & constant contact they want but it is normal remember that! I used to wear a Muslin within my top/clothes of a daytime then swaddle him In it at night so he had my smell and was wrapped up tight! It may get you an hour or so at a time of sleep if they settle for a while like that. Also try using what he sleeps in during the day at night if you’re not already - for example we’re using his moses basket as he would not settle in the next to me as so big & he slept fine in Moses throughout the day xx

Unfortunately I think this is normal! Babies get day/night confusion so maybe that’s why she sleeps to good in the day and shocking at night! I’d recommend making sure during the day you’ve got the blinds open for natural light, you’re interacting with her loads and maybe even go for walks so she can start to know the difference! Persevere with it, I promise it gets better! I know it’ll feel like you’re a zombie right now but sleep will come!

This is 💯 normal!!!

So normal, me and my partner did shifts with our baby until they would be put down. They just want to be cosy and snuggled 🩷

This is completely normal. Have a google of the ‘fourth trimester’ - it isn’t spoken about enough. They just want to be close to you because that’s all they know. Use a swaddle, as this makes them feel secure and safe, use a white noise as this is also the type of noise they hear in the womb. It does get better, but for now soak up those cuddles and if you have support, ask for it x