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Im so sorry. I hope it’s just a rough patch!

Communication is key! Sending you good vibes.

Currently in the same boat /:

Sending hugs! Try and be open about your needs ❤️ took me and my husband about a year to really start to understand our roles. Hes still learning everyday how to show up but he wants to learn, thats the key. If they want to they will. Sending you new baby hugs. This is an emotional time (I’m also 6 weeks pp) give yourself and even husband some grace (specially if this is your first) ❤️

I’m so sorry, hopefully it’s just a rough patch and you can get through it! My husband and I went through this after our first was born and he’s now 6 and we are still going strong and just had our 4th baby a month ago. It’s hard at the beginning but you both have to just communicate with each other and try to make time for each other.

I’m going through something similar :( Having babies has really shown my partners true colors and the way I feel so disrespected and unappreciated for everything I do is crazy. I find myself questioning if I can live like this for the rest of my life and I don’t think I can. I waited specifically for someone I thought was going to be a really good dad, and in a really good relationship too. 😭 sucks that it’s all going downhill for me.

@Jessica that’s the thing! The past two months all he wants to do is play video games, he will tend to the baby help with what I ask, but as of making time for me, that’s just out the window!

@Lorena my husband is a very big gamer also. He was playing a lot at the beginning but once I told him that I needed some attention he started spending evenings with me watching a movie or a show or something. Then after baby and I go to bed he will play for a little bit. Sometimes we have to just tell these guys what we need from them because they can be clueless.

I recently ended my relationship. Our baby daughter is only one month old 😭

I feel the same. And honestly, I'm not even sure. I want to communicate anymore when previous attempts were met defensively. I'm 1.5mo PP and have a 1.5yr old with this man married 2yrs and a previous single mom, I have no doubts about going at it alone, just not sure if it a thr right thing to do.

@Adri I feel that, I’ve told my husband multiple times how I feel and nothing ever changes

@Lorena I’m in the same boat. The first like 5 days was amazing. He was helping, we were doing and figuring out everything together. And he wasn’t on the game or prioritizing his friends at all over us at all. Watching him become a dad was the best thing in the world. (And I won’t lie it made me super attracted to him, if you know what I mean, which I hadn’t been since before I was pregnant) Then the end of the first week rolled around and he hopped on the game and it’s been all downhill since. My son is 7 weeks old now and I am doing everything alone because all he wants to do is play and act like he’s on vacation… I break down and cry to him when it becomes to much and he’ll be helpful for a day or two. Kinda… but it’s hard. His aunt just came to visit from across the country and I would complain to her. She would tell me it’s the “mom load” and it just come with the territory. I really thought I was with a man who would break those stereotypes but I was so wrong.

Also, the excuses he can come up with are going to be the end of me. Especially when he hits me with the, “idk what to do or how to handle him, idk what he needs, you’re just better at figuring things out” I AM LEARNING AS I GO JUST AS MUCH AS YOU ARE. I have no idea what I’m doing, that’s part of being a parent..