Need Reassurance

TW: Spotting, cramping, fears of miscarriage Guys, I'm struggling. For reference, this is my first pregnancy, I am 9 weeks tomorrow, and I haven't seen an OBGYN yet. I've had very light spotting off and on for weeks, plus light cramps pretty much all the time. Today I really freaked out because I woke up with cramps that are more sharp, but still tolerable and not as bad as period cramps. Then around noon, I used the restroom and saw less than a dime sized amount of pinkish red spotting on the TP. I convinced myself that something horrible was happening, so I went to the ER. I did a urine sample and the doctor came to see me to talk and tried to reassure me that everything seemed very normal. My sample was very positive for pregnancy and I don't have a UTI or any other concerns. He did some examination of my abdomen and said he didn't think there was any issue because my only cramping is in the upper center of my pelvis and not equivalent to what a miscarriage should feel like. Additionally, I haven't had any spotting sense. Overall, I keep being told that I have zero reason to worry. But, this is my first pregnancy and I am terrified! I know there's nothing I can do; this pregnancy will either be healthy or it won't. That just doesn't help me feel any better. Ultimately I decided not to get an ultrasound at the ER because it's expensive and I felt silly spending all that money when supposedly everything is fine. I have my first OBGYN appointment on the 28th, and the wait is just so exhausting. Is anyone else feeling this anxious? Is anyone else experiencing constant cramping and off and on spotting? Please give me some positivity if you can. I need it. Also, WARNING that I will have a picture of the spotting in the comments.

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@Destine Thank you for sharing 🤍 I really did not at all feel supported by that ER doctor. He made me feel stupid for coming when my symptoms were so minimal and just kept telling me that even if I heard this baby's heartbeat today, there's no promising it wouldn't stop tomorrow. As if that means I shouldn't even bother seeking reassurance. Then my husband, love him to death, was overly calm and relaxed about everything. I know he was trying to be a voice of reason but he kept comparing this to his previous experiences (he has 3 kids from his first marriage) and how it's normal to spot and cramp. Like yeah guys, I know this! It just doesn't change the fact that I feel worried!!

I’ve had spotting about this whole pregnancy. At 5 weeks I went to the bathroom and had a lot of blood ( it was everywhere and the toilet bowl was fully red) so I called my ob they got me in and turns out I have a place below baby that is bleeding and causing it. They put me on bed rest for a while and since then I’ve been kinda lazy now able to actually do stuff again but told to still take it easy for a while. Some spotting is normal and so are cramps. As long as your cramps are consistent sharp pains it’s fine and as long as tour not filling a pad within a hour it should be fine as well.

I had a lot of blood come out when i went to pee at 6 weeks o wasn’t goin to go to the hospital i jus assumed i had a miscarriage i was goin to just wait a few days to see if everything come out then go the next day i wasn’t bleeding or spotting any more so i went to the hospital turns out bby is fine i have a sub chronic hemorrhage(placenta attach to scared tissue from previous csection an cause an hemorrhage) now 10 weeks no blood or spotting lately

Thanks ladies! I'm not bleeding at all, haven't even spotted since yesterday at noon. I think I'm being overly paranoid because this is my first pregnancy and I don't know what to expect. I'm going to try to keep my head up and stay positive until my appointment on the 28th. 🥺

I feel you on the anxiety. I had some bleeding around 5 weeks and my doctor couldn't see me for a first ultrasound until 11 weeks, I'm 10 now. We ended up finding an ultrasound boutique near us and saw the baby and confirmed heartbeat last week just to give me peace of mind. It was $70 but for me to be able to sleep more soundly at night and ease some of my fears it was 100% worth it. I wish the doctors would be more accommodating and do like an 8 week appointment then 12 and not drag things out so moms can feel more confident and know more about their baby. This is my first too.

Have you been having sex? The small amount of spotting could be cervical irritation if you are. The cervix is much more sensitive when you are pregnant If not, small amounts of inconsistent spotting can still be normal!

@Ciara Sex did cause spotting for me but that was a couple of weeks ago. We haven't since. I do agree though, I feel like my cervix is just extra sensitive!

Hi! I’m spotting right now and having a totally normal pregnancy. This is my 3rd, and the only time I’ve spotted in a healthy pregnancy. I had slight cramping/tightness too. This was week 9 until about 2 days ago (I’m 10 and 4) What was explained to me is this: this is when your placenta is coming in! It’s causing pressure to be put on the blood vessels in your cervix which can cause some to burst and that’s the cause of the spotting. The cramping is just the placenta attaching. I’ve also been told that this would have normally been my regular cycle and sometimes our bodies are just so in habit that they are expelling whatever blood/tissue/mucus available to keep in line with then your regular period would have been. I really hope this helps, this helped me 🥰

@Heather This helped SO much! Thank you! I will definitely be talking to my doctor about this when I have my first appointment in 1 week! 🤍

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