Please help, but try to keep it sincere as I’m sensitive af.

I need advice. I’m a single mom of two. First child conceived via rape. Second child conceived via donor iui. I’m considering a 3rd child down the road. I know it’s going to be hard as hell as 1 was tough at times , 2 is rough at times. I love my children dearly and absolutely blessed and love being a mama. I do get stressed very easily though and sometimes get angry. Don’t we all though! But , here’s my dilemma. I know strangers won’t know but I can’t help but feel guilty or ashamed that my 2 kids already have different fathers than having a 3rd they all would as well. It makes me feel like a “slut” even though I obviously didn’t have intercourse with these men. I also feel bad as my children aren’t “full” siblings and you don’t get comments and will down the road. Am I a bad mom for the way I already started my family? And I a bad person for wanting a 3rd child and another sibling for my children? I already accepted that I’ll most likely not find a man and me alone. Dating life has been hell since the rape and then a real bad breakup I had. Also most men now run when they hear two children and baggage past.

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If you show up for your babies, put them first and stay in a path of always trying to learn and grow == You’re 100% one of the best moms out there. If you want another baby, ask yourself 3 questions 1 can I afford to have three kids? 2 who do I want around my dinner table in 5,10,15 years And last but not least . Ask your kids how they would feel having another sibling. Some things to consider Is your youngest cut out to be a middle child? Do you really give a rats ass about people who still care about siblings not being full blood? And if it was one of your kids asking you this very question years down the road, what would your advice be. As a stranger to you here is what I hear. Your good momma, who loves her babies so much she wants more, more love , more smiles, more tears, more joy , more from life. You sound pretty great to me

I know many types of families single mothers women who have been with their partners since high school women with multiple kids with different dads I even have a friend who doesn’t know who the dad is at all due to one night stands and what I’ve learned is it doesn’t matter how the child comes into the world that determines what type of mother you will be it’s about the love time and care you put into your child please don’t allow anyone to determine the happiness of your family I know it’s probably easier said than done but just keep your focus on your babies and let the rest melt away also the ones I know with multiple dads their kids don’t see anything but a sister or brother half siblings full siblings makes no difference they are siblings and they go hard for each other

Under the circumstances I think you're doing an amazing job. You're a mom. Life is hard. Being a mom is not easy but we show up. And we show out every single day and that should be respected the fact that you overcame a situation that most people couldn't. That shows that you have determination and that You're going to make it if you choose to have a third child. That's your choice.And I think it's a beautiful one, it's a personal one.And don't worry about what other people think.They're always gonna think the worst just look for you and your beautiful babies

I'm really sorry about what you had to go through with your first child. And I've made 5 children like your second circumstance, and I think it's an absolute beautiful situation. And I think that if you want to go forward, you should

I just hope that you prosecuted, that man. For every ounce that he is because he's a scumbag, but I'm just glad that there was a blessing at the end of the rainbow.

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