Miscarriages

Sounds like you’re already a great friend! Let her have the space to feel however she feels, without giving much advice. Ask, “how can I support you?” Some people want to just move quickly past and not talk, others get a lot of comfort from talking through it all. Things to make her cozy: fuzzy socks, tea, a new blanket, chocolate or her favorite treat. My friend made me a little care basket and just was present and there and was willing to talk about it or not, whatever I needed. And that was really helpful. Sending you love and peace for your friend 😊

Never use phrases like "at least it was early" "at least you can still try again", those are more hurtful than helpful. She's likely blaming herself for it, even though it isn't her fault. You don't always have to say anything. Simply being present is enough, let her talk about her pain and acknowledge it rather than avoid it. Grief is a place to move through, not to stay.

As someone who went through this... Every person has different wants or needs in this case. DON'T try to put it into perspective, DON'T say "everything happens for a reason", DON'T say you can try again... DO acknowledge the loss. DO offer to listen IF she wants to talk. No matter how many she's had they all hurt, physically & mentally. Offer to bring her some food so she doesn't have to think about meals for a few days. Or just do it, if she's the type to not want to bother people with her problems. Sit with her. Talk about whatever she wants to talk about. For me, it was helpful to understand the science behind it. That there was nothing I did or didn't do. I didn't cause it. Likely there were abnormalities with the egg or the sperm or the body chemistry that caused it as the cells started dividing. But this was me. I like knowing the facts. Encourage her to find an online support group of women who have also gone through it. This helped me sort through my feelings.

If she's had multiple, maybe encourage her to seek out help from a fertility expert. Under 35, 3 consecutive losses is considered for fertility intervention, over 35, it's reduced to only 2.

Agree with above, If she has kids, my sister took my little one to the park for an hour so i could shower and grieve just a little. I always felt bad crying in front of them.

@Danielle you sound like a really great friend❤️ I haven’t experienced but if I did you’d be a good person to have in the inner circle