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Am I crazy for feeling like this?

I'm really frustrated because my daughter is 13.5 months and I i stopped pumping when she was 8 months when i felt like i had enough of a stash to tide us through anything and i mentally just couldn't pump anymore. I have continued breastfeeding and i love it. My issue is that this is the second time my MIL has gotten out a bag of frozen milk and then not used it so I've had to throw it away. I can count on 1 hand how many times I've left my daughter for more the 30 minutes. My husband took our daughter to his parents today and i had a mom's day out with some gals i workout with. He dropped me off at 1 and our daughter had been asleep since 1130. I came back from a good outing at 3pm to find that the milk that had been defrosted was never used and they just gave her water. Which water is fine, but if milk is defrosted then use it. So when i got back i hung out we had dinner and when we left at 7pm i told his mom to just throw that bag of unused milk out. So right now I'm pissed at my husband for not putting that milk in a cup when they got there like i asked so that it could get used. And I'm mad at his mother for wasting another bag of milk that i pumped. But i feel like i can't talk to either of them about this because they just won't understand, his mom gave all her kids formula and my husband works swing so he never saw the tears and mental strain that pumping caused. I'm just so angry and sad right now. I feel like since I'm a SAHM who has had a successful breastfeeding journey I shouldn't be crying over wasted milk but I am.

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you’re not crazy milk is expensive😭 even if it’s breast milk it takes a lot to keep up a supply mentally and all.. i personally would still say something cause anything can happen where you need to use the milk and those wasted one can make a huge difference

@jasmine thank you, I still EBF from the breast in addition to solids and don't plan to wean until she is 2 but if hurts to see all that effort go down the drain. I think it sucks more because I don't leave her often so opportunities for them to use that milk for her is rare. I already have issues trusting others to care for my child and this just adds to that. Was she happy hydrated and fed, yes. But 6oz of milk went down the kitchen sink 😭

Was it not in the fridge. Or even if left out it can still be used within some time. Next time if this happens ask how long it’s been out because you could still use it and now have to waste it hopefully

@Gabrielle she got it out of the freezer at 11, and put the bag in water on the counter. I didn't get to the house till 3 and my daughter won't take a bottle if I'm there. Once it's at room temp you only have 2 hours to use it, so by the time I got there I think it would have been okay. But it's the fact that she got it out and wasted it by not using it and that it's not the first time she's done this that irks me. And the fact that I reminded my husband as he was dropping me off to get it in a bottle for her so that she could have something to drink after her nap. But that he forgot, and knowing him it's because he wanted to go do him things. I'm a SAHM that breastfeeds so he doesn't have a whole lot of mental load when it comes to our child. I'm just peeved right now and need to vent

You have all the rights to be sad! It is hard to squeeze that liquid gold out and freeze it for a needed time in the future. I had to throw away 21oz of expressed milk during the hardest time of my pumping journey and that was one of the hardest moments! I cried a lot when saying goodbye to those milk… I would talk to your partner and explain the pain and the process that goes into all of it and have him explain it to his mom! I hope this won’t happen again. 💚

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