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Maybe if you know your babies wake windows, make your bf set alarms all throughout the night? That’s a tricky situation.
@Gwendolyn see and this is exactly what I did and he didn’t even move and she had been crying for 3 mins and I was pissed!
@Jackie she doesn’t really wake up on a consistent basis like she use to. So it’s just random when she cries. His tail barely wakes up with an alarm clock, I’ve been his alarm clock even when I worked night shift but it was different we didn’t have a baby he had to take care of and I had access to my phone. At this new job I don’t have access to my phone. I’m so frustrated
Honestly this one is so tough. Bc his deep sleep is the problem and I don’t think there’s no solving that one. I hope you find a solution! 🫶🏽
Hi hun , everything is going to be ok. I work 3rd shift as well. But I’m able to pump and have my phone. Is it possible to have a relative sleep over and help him at night ?
@Kiarra thank you. Yeah his deep Sleeping is definitely the problem
@Chantal🇯🇲🇭🇹 thank you. No we live at least an hour away from our relatives. So I tossed the idea of having a camera in the room and giving a family member access to it so they could peep in here and there to make sure the baby was ok and not crying. He said he was ok with that. So maybe that will work on the nights I’m working. We gotta do something bc I have to go back to work and he can’t quit his day shift job and we have to make sure the baby is safe
So I’m kind of having the same issue with my daughter’s father. Except he finally admitted that because he knows I’m there he goes in a deeper sleep and tunes everything out 😒. He’s definitely been better but I still don’t know if I can fully trust if he’ll wake up when I’m at work. I have about 2 months left of my leave but I’m stressing 😔. Hopefully his daddy instincts will kick in. 🤞🏼 that these men get it together lol. If only they had our super sonic hearing as mothers
@Tiffany lol I hope so too. And see since I’ve been out of work I was the one always getting up bc my thoughts were he’s working I’m not so I can get up with her. So he hasn’t really gotten up with her like that and I blame myself for trying to be caring of his needs since he was working and now I’ve created a monster who doesn’t hear his child at night lol. When he’s up he’s great with her it’s just the night time im worried about. I pray these dads get it together too lol. I wish they did have the same hearing power as us lol
How many days do you have before you go back? If you have a few days, I would test it out... tell him tonight that he needs to take care of her when she starts crying. See if he wakes to to her cries.... give it 2-3 mins of her crying before you nudge him to see if he responds to her.