Just needed to express myself

I have an interview for grad school this week and I asked my advisor if it would be cool if I needed to nurse my 4 month old for like 15 min every couple hrs and just hand him back to my husband. He’s going to confirm but he’s pretty sure it’s going to be ok. But when I talked to my partner about it, he’s like yeah hopefully it’s cool but in any other situation it wouldn’t be acceptable and would be seen as a distraction or poor life management. Poor life management? Because a baby breast feeds and the institution can’t accommodate? Goddamn no wonder so many moms drop out of school or the work force. Idk his comment made me feel weird. Hopefully it will work out. Otherwise, I’m just gonna have to reschedule for a later date when baby can either eat solids or drink from a bottle.
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I feel as though hubby should be more considerate to your feelings because as we all know if you want to have a good breastfeeding journey you have to be consistent and your commitment to that should be acknowledged and appreciated. It’s not poor life management whatsoever. If you didn’t plan to check ahead of time then maybe one could argue that, but if they don’t have accommodations ready for situations like these that’s poor planning on their part! I went to an nfl game a few months ago and they had 2 nursing/pumping rooms for moms that I utilized and even had tvs in there so you could watch the game you paid to see 🥲 either way you’re doing great by even attempting to finish school.

Good luck with your interview! I just can't imagine anyone being on the side of starving a baby. You've arranged for the maximum amount of childcare possible. You've managed your life! Your husband's comment is why there are laws regarding breastfeeding women in the workplace. It's outdated, patriarchal, bs. It's the kind of thinking that educational institutions should rightly reject. Focus on the research and contribution you want to make to advance knowledge and their institution. Don't let this be a distraction!

@Nia @Bonny Thank you so much for the validation and support 🥰

When i was in grad school i def had to take my kids with me a couple times. Usually graduate level professors understand we are grown with full lives and trying to fidget ourselves and are accomadating Unfortunately men are not usually the default parent so they don't understand.

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