Sex post birth

Vaginal delivery with an episiotomy. I'm 3 months PP and it still feels tender and uncomfortable down there when having sex, is this normal? I can find a position which feels comfortable to me but we still have to be cautious. Obviously things aren't as 'in the moment' and spontaneous as they used to be while having sex. I'm just wondering how long that lasts? I think I was assuming that once they gave you the 6 week green light to go everything was going to be ready down there, but clearly way too optimistic haha 😂

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Look into seeing a pelvic floor specialist or booking a mummy MOT if you can. They'll be able to give you some advice on helping penetrative sex feel comfortable again.

With my first episiotomy they stitched me up really "well" if you know what I mean.. I used to keep splitting down there every time I had sex which would be really sore after, it took a good 6-8 months for me to feel more healed and comfortable but by that point I was pregnant again 😂😫 x

You have to imagine it's like new scar tissue, which takes time to properly heal up so it's like the rest of your skin. Also do you feel like your episiotomy has healed properly? With me they stitched some lip together and made it too tight. GP didn't know what I was talking about, the gynecologist saw immediately what I ment. 😂 I would say it felt comfortable at 6 months pp and use lots of oil based lube or baby oil and lots of foreplay. That helped us a lot. Good luck and keep trying carefully or maybe just a good wank session together ❤️

Are you breastfeeding/ is your period back? For me where my episiotomy scar was felt really uncomfortable for a long time during sex and I worried my body would be like that forever. It turns out it was hormonal in my case, my period was very delayed due to breastfeeding and once my period returned the uncomfortable feeling went away instantly.

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