Please help 🙃

We have a tree my oldest is allowed to go scream and screech at. I’ll ask her “do you need to scream?” She says “yes” and we go. If we are indoors, I tell her she can scream into a blanket and then she’s good. Your case seems extreme. It’s unorthodox but maybe scream with her by showing her how/where/when to do it???? I’m so sorry….i still get touched out. It’s the worst. You shouldn’t be alone with this for 6wks. Your partner needs to help you find a therapist, baby sitter while you’re there. Can you go stay with family for those 6wks??? Coming from having post Partum depression myself, I think it might not be safe for you to be alone with that. My thoughts were really dark and it was knowing my mom would take the baby in the night so I could get sleep if I had to. Being sleep deprived, hormonal, extremely overwhelmed, and helpless isn’t a good recipe.

@Izzy that sounds like a healthy way for her to let it out! I don’t think mine would understand, I’ve tried sitting with her in a quiet room and consoling, distracting but she gets into a state in seconds and nothing works! I’d honestly be worried my neighbours would knock on my door as they did last month when she started screaming at 2am, we live in army housing so I’m worried they’d speak to his bosses! I’m dreading it, all my family work full time, I’ll be spending 1 week with them and my mum has said she’d spend a few nights but she normally plans a few nights and ends up going back after 1 night because my dad will say he’s lonely (my 21 year old brother still lives with them). Honestly his mental health is bad and I’ve asked him to look into therapy himself but he doesn’t see how it helps so I don’t think he’s do that for me. I don’t know anyone in the area that could babysit, I really only trust my mum 😩

@Izzy I’m sorry you’ve gone through PPD! Honestly my mental health has just been at an all time low the past few months it started off the odd bad day now they’re more frequent than the good days. I’ve reached out to my mum and something else has always been a priority and with my partners working hours it’s hard to have much support. I think when I go home I’ll explain to my mum as normally on the phone I can’t get a word in 🤦🏻‍♀️

I understand. I remember begging for help and knowing I was in a bad state, but didn’t realize how bad until I was out of the worst of it! Small highlight: I still am overwhelmed, but where it was a 10, I think I’m at a manageable 5-7 most days now. I hope there’s a mama friend in your future and in your area to just come over and “be” with you so you’re not so lonely. The feeling of isolation is truly the worst. I never understood it until I was trapped with such little kids day in and day out with an unsupportive partner. (He wanted to do more, but literally couldn’t; ADHD untreated so bad) It’s just not fair and there’s no time for you to really be there for them. And then add screaming…..it’ll pass, but I’m really hoping sooner rather than later for you love!!

@Izzy I’m so sorry,I’m glad you’re now finding it more manageable! That’s so sweet of you! I would love nothing more than to have a friend near by but unfortunately the estate I’m in is very well known for 2 faced and fake people (obviously not everyone but it does have a bad reputation here) so I am scared but I have a good sense of people so I’d hopefully be able to spot them from a mile away but I’m hopeful there’s at least 1 person here I’m able to become friends with! Isolation is awful! Don’t get me wrong I do enjoy my own company but when it’s been a while and it hits you it’s so tough! I’m so sorry you didn’t have a supportive partner, ADHD is tough let alone untreated so I can’t imagine what that was like for you! I actually broke down to my mum on the weekend and she offered to have my eldest for a few nights (beyond rare so I’m extremely grateful) so she’s taken her and I miss her sooo much but I know I mentally needed the break and it’s also given me a chance

@Izzy to bond with my youngest and soak up the last few days with my partner before he goes away. I feel like I don’t give him the attention he deserves as I’m still learning to divide my attention between 3 people now but these past 2 days have been so good for my mental health,even if I’m asking my mum for photos and videos frequently 😂 thank you so much for your replies! I actually posted this in another group and had no reply so it’s nice to be seen and heard! I wish nothing but the best for you and your beautiful family 🥰