Resentment towards husband
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@Layla Caron I’m 8 months postpartum. I would say I’ve been feeling this way for about 3-4 months now. I have tried to sit down with him and talk but we seem to go in circles and we get no where. He uses the excuse of “I’m tired I have worked all day and you’ve been home with the baby all day” I tried talking to him today and told him I had nothing else to say to him until he was ready to talk and we haven’t spoken since. I am physically, mentally, & emotionally exhausted. I just don’t know what to do anymore
Sorry love, it seems you picked a dud for a husband and father. He sounds just like many men who can’t seem to get it into their thick brains that being a SAHM is not a holiday and you are on-call 24/7 with no breaks! He’s tired?? What a joke! Sadly these men are still stuck in the 1950s and think that women should be doing it all and being quiet about it whilst he does his ‘Very Important Job’ and can come home to rest, meal cooked for him, house is clean and his dick sucked too. Most men who enjoy being fathers will go to work and come home and spend any spare moment with their kids. My husband used to be out 6am-6pm Mon to Fri but when he came home he took over. He made me a cup of tea, cooked dinner, fed baby, did bath and bedtime AND also did night wake up feeds too. Would your husband be willing to go to marriage counselling? He needs to realise how drastic this situation has got and could end your marriage.
How many weeks or months postpartum are you? I would sit down and have a long talk with him having a baby is mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausting and not getting enough sleep can also factor into the resentment. I will also say though nothing is going to change if you don’t say something about him cleaning up I used to take pictures of everything my fiancé left out that he said he”cleaned up” eventually he got tired, embarrassed, or mad about it and he’s gotten a lot better. I think sometimes having a baby upsets the whole house routine and anything you were individually working on beforehand.