First baby year
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@Elise yes!! I have been doing individual but he already told his other daughter he doesnt want to work it out and his ex wife. When I feel like im getting in a good space mentally he brings me back down. I love him and want to slavage our marriage, but not the expense of our daughter living in a home of two people fighting all the time. Not to mention his sister getting involved and sending me mean texts. She lived 10 min from us and never came and saw her niece.
He sounds like a drama llama. Challenge your thinking, what does love mean to you? What should a loving relationship look like in your eyes? You obviously have a child with this individual so it's so much harder to disconnect yourself from them, but this is the time to really figure out what YOU want out of YOUR life. What do you want your daughter to look for in a future partner? Be her example. You deserve more.
Yes we struggled too after the baby, it’s such a big change in both of our lives. I’m sorry you’re going through this and I do recommend counseling. At least you can say you tried everything
Thank you everyone! I dont feel so alone now
My partner and I struggled as well. My son is my first and his 4th. He was way more prepared for the changes than I was. Which he put in way more work in our relationship than I did the first year. I am so thankful for it too. Our son is 17 months old now and I am putting in my work with our relationship and things are getting better everyday. It is a huge change for both people.
This sounds like more than the typical struggles that couples go through during the first year of parenthood. That being said, ABSOLUTELY couples struggle. And I'll speak for myself, my partner and I almost broke up multiple times in the first year of parenting (our daughter is 16 months now) We spent two weeks apart after one particulary mean fight, and we vowed to re-commit to each other, ourselves and our daughter. We currently are stronger then we have ever been, but it took a tremendous amount of work and still does everyday to make sure we are communicating and helping each other out. If your husband is unwilling or unable to do the work, the relationship will fail. I do hope that you seek individual counseling to decipher what you are and are not willing to put up with in this relationship. I am unsure if you are looking to salvage it, but either way it's healthy to figure out where your boundaries are as you and him will be intertwined with one another for the rest of your lives. Good luck mama