Feeling crap on my birthday
It’s my birthday (I had almost forgotten about it and I’m only in my 20s) as a first time mama! and usually I make plans with my husband of what we will do for the day, sometimes we even plan holidays! Last year while pregnant I thought that this year I’d feel so fulfilled and complete with my baby- but I feel crap.
I see pics and vids of my self on previous birthdays and I feel that girl has died. I feel gross and ugly even though everyone tells me they think I haven’t changed much. My hair would get compliments everywhere I went and now it’s all falling out and always in a bun, my skin is not taken care of like it used to and I’m breaking out way more, I was so slim and healthy and I feel out of shape and awful.
I’m grateful to have my baby, my husband, my home, and health. But mentally I’m just feeling crappy. I don’t care to even go for dinner today because I don’t feel I want to celebrate. Feeling so low :/
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Happy birthday! These first few weeks are the hardest. I hope you managed to enjoy the rest of your birthday x
My birthday was last week and was so depressing too! 🤣 27 but feeling 57, you’re allowed to miss your old life. But your baby is the best gift it just may not feel like it right now, it gets better 💝
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Firstly, happy birthday 🥳 I recently turned 30 (also a first time mum). Initially on the day I had similar feelings. I was sad that such a big birthday wasn’t being celebrated. That I didn’t have all my friends and family around me. That I had to go up to bed with my little one early. However the day after I sat there and thought. Wow this time next year I’ll have a 1+ year old. Who will be going out for a meal with me, eating food, hopefully walking. I know everyone’s feels different. And it’s ok to feel crappy and selfish about these new versions of ourselves. Is there any chance you could do something slightly different? Order your favourite take away? Have some people pop round if you don’t want to go out ? Just to make the day special, but in a different way. Again, it’s ok to feel crappy. But I hope you can turn it around and have a fabulous birthday 🥳 x