MIL rant

My baby will be turning 1 next month and my MIL has only seen her 5 times since being born. Those times have been really short too. She lives in another city but has come to London with her friends on other occasions and hasn't dropped by. I think it's weird and I just want to echo the lack of effort. My husband wants us to do something specifically for his mum on our babies birthday to "force her to bond with her" I think it's so dumb, it's not her day why are we making plans around her. We can't force her to want to bond with our daughter.

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She probably isn’t naturally maternal. How is she with your oh? I don’t see any harm in them doing something next time she comes down however she doesn’t seem like the type that would be interested in doing kid friendly things. Maybe things will change as your child gets older.

@Karen you're right she's not, he was raised by his grandparents. We get a resentment vibe from her, while I was pregnant all she did was talk about how theres no more sleep, lives are over etc

Baby’s birthday is about one person only - your baby! If she makes the effort to be involved that’s up to her, it’s not your job to make them have a relationship!

I’m currently worrying about my lo birthday who is 1 too next month. Dad’s mom also seen lo 5 times and is currently ignoring my messages. Feel this could set the tone for the birthday if they don’t come and it will annoy my boyfriend. If they do and we haven’t had any contact for months it’s also going to be awkward. Don’t know what to do for best x

You cannot force someone to show up for you/your child. Make the plans you want for your LO's first birthday and invite her to join you and leave it at that

If she doesn't make the effort, I wouldn't make the effort

I wouldn’t do anything extra for her I’d let her know we’re doing xyz would be nice if you can make it here are the details let us know if you can make it

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