How to make the decision to leave?

Am in the same situation right now I don’t. Need him financially but I need him to watch our kids so I can work

If you need someone to talk to you can message me 🫶🏻 I'm not sure if your situation so its hard to give any advice but I can tell you why I left both of my narcissists. My first one was when I was a teenager & he was verbally abusive. One night he hit me hard & told me to shut the F up. I just knew that it had to end so I left in the middle of the night. I started dating & then married my next. I didn't want to be with him in serious compacity but he isolated me from everyone so I stayed. He was mentally abusive but he never hit me so I thought it was better. It took me 10 years to get up the courage to leave him. He had taken everything from me by making my life hell if I wanted to work, go to school or do anything outside of the home it was an issue. I did volunteer work & I refused to give it up & this infuriated him. Eventually, he threatened to divorce me. I pleaded for him not to but he stuck to his guns. After a week of his threats & verbal abuse I just had enough & I left while he was at work.

He never wanted a divorce and tried everything to get me back even holding my pets hostage but I didn't want to go back. Just know that while it is scarynand hard there is hope after. I got my life together and started over. Now I'm married to the most amazing man and we have our daughter together. You are stronger than you realize 💖