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I’m posting incognito as I keep seeing all these women asking questions for support (as we should) and they get opinions opposed to help or assistance. For example, seeing parents asking about weaning advice prior to 6M. And the comments will be people slamming about how the LO isn’t 6M & should wait. Why comment. Leave the mother to make her own decision for their child. I just feel we are in era when we should be supporting one another, we all understand how hard it is to navigate and manage through the different stages of motherhood, for our own sakes and the babies. So if you cant advise on what they are asking or help support them, or say something nice, then don’t say anything at all. Sending all the positive thoughts and love to those asking for support as it’s hard and know if I see you, I’ll comment to help if I can. We should stick together not slam or make someone feel they’re doing something wrong ❤️

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Very well said! 🙌🏼🤗 couldn’t agree more!! So many hateful comments on here that do nothing but bring you down when most of us are probably already feeling down/vulnerable hence why we post asking for advice etc. don’t get me wrong, there’s loads of supportive people on here too but I agree that if you have nothing nice or constructive to say then keep it to yourself

I agree but only to a degree. I think it depends on the individual posts. Most of the time, everyone is genuinely asking for help and we are all (or at least most of us are) glad to help. But I saw a post on a different group a couple of weeks ago where someone was asking how they can get UC when they are not entitled to any. They were asking if they should pretend their partner does not live with them so their income would not be taken into account. That is literally fraud and people were telling them off and rightfully so.

@Mantha totally agree with advising people not to commit fraud. And not to lie as that isn’t fair in those who do need that support from UC. I should have added there are lots of wonderful comments and support! But just seen bits so frequently lately around comments that are completely uncalled for if that makes sense xxx

@Dana absolutely, there are wonderful humans on here! Glad you agree! I want us all to be able to empower one another and help one another not tear each other down and make one parents choice feel wrong compared to our own. Xxx

Absolutely agree. Parenting is so individual and unique to your baby. Guidance is appreciated, harsh opinions are not. 🤍

Purely because a lot of people question things not knowing the actual guidelines, so in effect we should be highlighting safety and guidelines and then follow it up with advice.

I agree to an extent. There is a difference between being hateful and clearing up misinformation or stating factual advice that happens to disagree with the poster. And some comments genuinely give bad advice. However, for the most part parents do typically mean well and I've learned to let things go, even if I don't agree. We do have to be careful of groupthink and echo chambers because that's how misinformation spreads so pervasively. That said, I think a lot of moms are adamant about safety advice because it is given as very hardline, with zero room for error. I get why this is, because we want to err on the side of caution with babies, but the reality is it's not always as detrimental as it's made out to be. Bedsharing for example. I won't do it and am against it, but a lot more people do it than we think. I'm not going to fight over it. I don't think the line with common safety advice is as hard as it's made out to be, we just see it that way which drives us to want to be strict about it.

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