in Mom's going through divorce/separation/ breakups

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Have you ever been so foolish in love that you overlooked the pain someone caused you simply because you loved them? How did you manage to let go and move on? How do you recover from a 13-year relationship? How did you get your mind, heart, and soul to face the reality of the situation? How can you be friends with someone who has hurt you deeply? I'm not ready to be friends yet because I don't know how to shift my feelings of love to a friendship. What are some things that have helped you get over heartache? I need to be strong for my kids, and right now, I don’t have anyone to turn to. Sometimes, my mind goes into darkness and thought of letting go. I'm trying to be strong.

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You’re going to be ok. Therapy can be extremely helpful for processing everything. You may not be able to be friends with someone who has hurt you, but you are able to heal yourself and move on to a great life.

Divorced after 13 years married and 19.5 years total. Therapy helped me let go. I chose to end it so being friendly was easier for me than him. It also pushed him to finally do therapy so we're amicable.

@Grayson Im trying to explain that to them. I'm not mentally ready to be your friend. I still love them but I'm also still hurting. Yes, I need to start going to therapy. I don't know why I'm so afraid.

@Jessi I don't know why I am afraid to go to therapy. I just want everything to go away.

Therapy requires work that can be incredibly uncomfortable. I've been going for 2.5 years and some of it was brutal like acknowledging my marriage was in shambles or deciding to leave when couples therapy wasn't working. I'll say it was all worth it. My only regret is not starting therapy sooner.

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