Guilt surrounding crying?
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@Katie Duggan yes! Like I’ll intervene as soon as I can if it’s actual upset crying of course not just fussing. Thank you 🙏 I don’t understand how people are having multiple kids with this kind of expectation as they could be crying at the same time haha. So much guilt when I feel we’re all trying our best!
Mine has been crying in my arms for what seems like 5-10 minutes before her nap. Maybe longer. I’m singing, using the sound machine, and rocking and patting her and she is screaming in my ear. I get frustrated by this. It’s been happening for all this week. I feel like shit for getting mad. I put her down and tell her stop crying. Sometimes she “listens” and sometimes it persists. Then I gotta get up and walk around with her. I’m doing the best and honestly was just gonna make a post about this. Idk what’s going on cuz I thought we went through a regression 2 weeks ago. I need a break but I have no one to help me nor do I trust anyone. I guess that’s a me problem. I really wish I had my mom here still.
@Brooke oh no I’m so sorry that sounds rough! We’ve gone through major crying phases too anytime there’s a regression or growth spurt. Do you have a partner that can help you with a little break when they get home?
By the time he gets home nine and 10 times she’s taking a nap on me. When she wakes up, he normally feeds her. Then I play with her or we both try to play with her mainly me. I get a 15 minute break if I ask him to do bath time with her. Honestly, I don’t get many breaks.
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I am the same I let my baby cry for about 15 minutes before I get her just in case she is just mad for being put down. Sometimes I feel really bad for everyone in the house since they complain but I don’t want her to be used to associating bed time with being held
Don’t worry!! You’re not alone. I let my little guy fuss or cry for 10 mins usually (unless it’s super angry crying of course) before intervening at night and definitely same thing I need a bathroom break or quick shower etc. I think as long as we respond when they have a real need and not just fussing, we are doing right by them! If we never let them fuss they won’t learn the important skill of self-soothing and self-settling. That’s just as important for them to know. You’re good mama!! You’re not alone! 💜