agree/disagree/do I need to grow a spine?

“Let him/her cry, he/she is alright.” Based on how I feel about this statement, it might be a bit obvious that I am a first time mom. Before I’d given birth I was against this method of parenting. I solely believe in doing what works for you, but I knew this was not something I would ever get accustomed to. There needs to be a replacement term, some sort of substitute because no, I am not going to let that baby cry. There are levels to crying, I’ve become quite familiar with each one. I find it so sad how babies are so easily dismissed. My family members call my child moody and spoiled but really she’s such a good girl. Example to prove it: A few days ago I moved out of my apartment. Everything I own placed into storage, except for my couch. Before turning my key over I had to spend the entire day and night in my apartment to make sure everything was in order. I was worried about entertaining my 11mo old for the duration of that time. My floors were dirty from all the back and forth of moving so I felt guilty for not even being able to let the baby crawl on the floor. Mind you she’s fully capable of climbing onto and off of the couch on her own. I don’t remember entirely what all we did but we definitely made it through both the day and night just fine. She remained on the couch for over 24hrs. No toys, no screen time, just some cheerios and random stuff from mommas bag. I listen and pay attention to my child as best I can. So when I have to step away and I know she’s going to cry I move very quickly before the “noise”turns into real cry’s with actual tears. I’m currently going through a major transition and I’ve noticed how the change has directly affected her. I can’t speak for all moms but I am unable to fully operate when my child is any distress. If she is uneasy, then so am I. “Figure out what the baby needs in order to be okay before you step away” maybe, idk, definitely too wordy. There will be moments where I can’t comfort every single cry but why train myself to dismiss my natural response to my crying child? Especially if she does not have to cry. Due to our current circumstances all my baby has is me, most days. I partly feel guilty for I guess not training her better, maybe to be more independent, but again she’s only 11mo old. Another part of me doesn’t feel guilty because a lot of that reason she primarily wants mom all the time is because mom listens to her. Mom accommodates her, and there isn’t anyone outside of mom who is willing to accommodate her needs the way that I do and that makes me incredibly sad. So I don’t trust anyone to babysit and it has less to do with my attachment and more to do with the lack of compassion and patience that people have. Even those with children, not always will someone give your child the same patience they give their own. Kids will definitely force you to figure it out, figure out exactly what works for them. From the moment they are born there’s a shift, they come first, do they not? Why not continue to treat them as such, even when it’s an inconvenience to us? There aren’t enough people who will bend in that way and I wish there was. Because for my girl I will hop out of the shower before rinsing the soap off just to make sure she is alright. I hope and pray there will be a day I can step away and know with all certainty she will be fine.