Dealing with grief whilst the loved one is here
I’m hoping someone can help me adjust so my mums been diagnosed with a terminal illness fairly late stages from the information I can pick up on. My mums has come to terms with it and business as normal as much can be. Now I’m trying my hardest to be strong for my mum and my girl especially when we’re around her don’t want to make it hard for her. I’m having quite a lot of lows when I’m done visiting and trying to crack on with my everyday outside of this I get really upset knowing that I won’t be able to speak to her everyday like I do, go shopping pop round for coffee or dinner etc let alone the rest of the milestones mostly my lgs milestones who she’s really enjoyed bonding with. Realistically I can’t change anything, there’s no use getting upset over it and to obviously to cherish the memories I can make it’s just really hard knowing that I will have to say goodbye and she won’t be there to answer my silly mum questions or hear me rant away anyone have any top tips or great memory making ideas?
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@Rachel thanks for your reply, we’re looking at a small family trip once she’s feeling up to it depending on treatment etc. I think what I’m finding particularly hard for example we used to frequently have a little shopping trip and we’d choose things for my daughter together and coming away from that today I was really upset that I shan’t be able to do that in the future and my daughter is far to young to remember it going forward. I know I need to take loads of photos to.
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Sounds like you're being very realistic about it all. When this happened to me with my dad, we were all in denial and focused on helping him get a bit better so he could have treatment, this wasn't the case. But you've just got to cope however you can. You don't know how long you really have, just try to enjoy the time, but try not to keep thinking about it. How about a family weekend away, places your mum likes to go, family days out that take your mind off it Your little one will keep you busy, but don't forget to take time to yourself to process and relax. Xx