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Struggling with new job - vent

I feel like my manager hates me, I've only been there for 2 shifts and she talks to me like I'm stupid, says things I'm doing "shouldn't take me so long" and is generally just quite difficult to be around. She huffs and puffs about how much work she has to do and how busy she is, as if her staff aren't easing the load for her and we should feel guilty about it. I'm so stressed about it and just feel like I've made a mistake taking this job. I know a lot of managers can be like this, my last one was very similar, but that was before baby was born almost 2 years ago, so I haven't been working for a while and I'm feeling the pressure. I understand that this is her business so she wants to run it efficiently but I have had 2 shifts, one of which was a half day, so I've barely gotten to grips with anything and I already feel like I'm failing. I feel like I'm going too slow, not remembering everything and just generally feel like she regrets hiring me. I'm sat outside in my car right now just dreading the day, knowing I won't be home until 6pm and just wishing I could turn the car around and go home. 😔

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Hey, I would ask her for a chat - you need to stand up for yourself and be assertive - but in a polite and professional way I would say ‘just want to check in about what’s expected of me in my role etc as I know I’m really knew it’s just with you saying things shouldn’t take this long, what are our timescales for completing things so I am trying my best to do as expected’ I would also be looking for another job if things don’t improve x PS what job is it?

I think it's not you, it's the toxic surroundings. I'm sure you are a good worker. I had a bad boss once and everybody in the office was feeling like you, not enough, making mistakes just because of the stress. If you can, look for another job otherwise it will have a bad impact on your family too.

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. Don’t beat yourself up because 1. You just started working after some time. 2. You are fairly new to the job. I’m sure when you get more settled and used to the running of things you will be doing much better. My advice to you though, be nice-nasty. It’s a mixture of being nice but also a bit nasty or passive aggressive which sets the tone for respect. It lets it be known that while you are respectful, you will not be disrespected. Stand up for yourself and good luck. 🩷 If things get worse just look for something else xx

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