Lonely

Are you pregnant or just had baby? I'm feeling extremely lonely and no motivation at all I'm pregnant for the second time. It can be a very lonely time and hard to get connect with new people. Groups like this are amazing for realizing your not alone... Also I'm so sorry your feeling that way

@Lizzy 🐝 I just had a baby 7 months ago

Aww you poor thing I was diagnosed with PPD 6 months after my boy was born i went to the doctor and my Doctor at the time wasn't supportive and felt like I wasn't heard I did find that therapy helped and trying to keep myself. But if you like your doctor definitely go and see if you can maybe get something and just go easy on yourself it's the hardest job being a mum!!

I'm struggling with depression, anxiety and grief of losing my sister 💔 😞 I feel very lonely and it hurts 😥 so much

@Lizzy 🐝 I’m on medication and have thought about going to therapy I’m just scared

@Hannah I’m very sorry to hear that. I my heart is with you 🩷🫶

I find it hard making and talking to people and make friends😭

Honestly when you find the right therapist it can make a massive difference. Fair play on the medication I went down the route but my doctor made me feel so uncomfortable I stopped taking it which is the worse thing. I'm still in therapy but before I got pregnant I was feeling so much better in myself now that I am pregnant again my brain is in over drive and I'm scared too. Community like this though I have to say are really helping me feel not so alone.

@Hannah sorry to hear about your sister that is really tough and with kids it's not easy to grief!

@Gemma I'm a chatter box but have so much anxiety and I literally tear myself apart so find it really difficult to meet new people and become make friends

@Lizzy 🐝 same I find it hard making conversations too so maybe why I can’t make friends

Love, one thing I had to learn was never back track. If the relationship ended on bad or unexpected terms don’t waste your time going back. If you’re socials are known, they would be contacted you if they cared to rekindle what was lost. I always recommend therapy even after my many bad experiences. I truly believe talking about something and getting logical feedback on your thoughts and emotions help bring our minds back into reality. As for friends love I still find it hard to “make friends” because people are either fake, morals don’t align with mine (respect and so on), or they just don’t know how to control their children and I don’t want that around me and mine. (It literally stresses me the heck out, I can’t focus when children are misbehaving and the parents do and say absolutely nothing, not worried about my kids mimicking behavior)

I just take things in stride and try not to be friends with everyone. I’m very strict on terminology, I don’t call everyone my friend unless we’ve actually talked and hung etc for about a year before I’ll call anyone that. Protect your peace and it’s okay to be alone just don’t allow that to make you feel lonely. You have to feel comfortable with being by yourself. I’ve slowly started to find my people and I’m content with that because you will only find real friends in a small circle. If you have a crowd around you, majority of them are wolves in sheep’s clothing. There are friend apps I’ve downloaded and have been able to find a few people I’ve connected with and speak to on the day to day. And that’s helped me branch out more. 💜

@Hannah It’s been a year and 2 months for me. I’ve still been unable to grieve, I try to not even think about it because then I feel like she’ll be gone gone. Ya know? 💔 I understand that so much, when she passed I was still around abusive environments which made everything a thousand times worse with me being unable to process it fully. I shut down entirely for a while just numb. I’m just now getting back very slowly unfortunately. I think about her everyday and at one point I would try not to think about her death but one night I just broke down alone in my bed, when my kids went to sleep. 😭 it’s a hard and sad thing having to grieve someone alone. I’m so sorry you’re feeling maybe similar things. I do hope you’re able to start overcoming it too. We’re not in the same age range I’m younger than ya but if that doesn’t bother ya I’d be happy to talk and make conversation. 💜 Talking helps me a lot even if it’s not about the subject at hand Feel free to inbox me if ya like. 💜

Here if you need a vent ❤️❤️ it’s really really hard and I totally understand your loneliness. Not all friends can understand when you become a mama but especially the old friends who you used to share your life with… not many talk about the friendship transitions that come with having a baby. It’s horrendous and you’re totally not alone - we’re all here with you x if you want to chat please feel free to message any time xx