Toddler moms - how often do you lose your temper with your kids?

My kids are the exact same age and the 2.5 year old does the same things. At the end of the day I feel so bad so snapping and constantly telling her to be quiet. I think it is the hormones, the post partum rage, being overstimulated and tired. I think about that stuff too but im trying to be better and stay quiet instead of responding. I just keep trying to remind myself every day thag she is little and is still learning. I think finding an outlet like running or yoga might help ❤️ you are not alone and not a bad mom. I know the guilt eats you up at night when you see how peaceful and sweet they can be. Take it one day at a time on trying to be better. It will get better/easier

First of all your feelings are valid and it’s extremely difficult!! All you can do is your best. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Make sure you’re getting your breaks and chance to reset. Try to talk to your toddler when baby’s not around and kinda validate her feelings like “is it hard being a big sister sometimes?” And try to sprinkle in special time just you and her throughout the day. Hopefully that helps a little.

I snap at my toddler almost every day. I feel bad every time. I try not to but he just doesn’t listen at all. He’s 2 and constantly bullies his 1 yr old brother. He hits him, pushes him, pulls his hair, takes toys away from him, etc. No matter how gentle I tell him to stop doing these things, he still does it. And sometimes it pushes me over the edge.

One to three times a week. Some days I really nail the parenting and everything goes smoothly. Other days my toddler is obviously tired, my baby is crying, the toddler starts trying to hit or bite while I'm trying to get the baby ready for bed and I snap and have to walk away. Sleep is hard to manage.

I’m right there with you. I have a 10 month old and a 3 year old. Baby naptime is a giant struggle for me too cause he doesn’t want to be quiet or give me space so naptime always takes 3 times as long. I have started resorting to tv to keep him away and quiet, but now he wakes up and asks for tv. I will have to deal with that eventually. Losing it with toddlers is completely normal. We try not to, but at some point, it will happen. And if your kids are like mine, I doubt you are getting a good full nights sleep either. It’s rough. Maybe try some earplugs that bring the noise level down but don’t completely block it so you can still hear what is going on. And when she starts screaming, either walk away or get quiet yourself. Yelling at screaming is just giving it negative attention or driving her louder. You are welcome to message me if you just need to talk.

I only have one kiddo so it might be a little easier for me, He’s 2.5 too. I taught him how to ask for my attention with his words so he’ll literally say “I want attention” when he feels like he’s not getting much and this has helped us both. I also try to teach him when he’s level headed how to breathe when he’s frustrated, inside voices, and keeping our hands to ourselves. When he yells I get quieter, I whisper. Eventually he does the same. I know it’s not easy, don’t blame yourself for what you did yesterday but don’t be afraid to change today. 💗 wishing you the best

I think I can count on one hand how many times I've lost my temper with her through out her life time? (She's almost 2.5) I have an unreasonable amount of patience though with an uncanny ability to disassociate when I need to

It's good to go easy on yourself ❤️ having a toddler and a baby is a savage situation to be in (2MO & Threenager in my case) toddlers have no mercy

I explain to my toddler that mama is having some big emotions and needs a woosah or another "clam down" that we practice when he has a big feeling, it doesn't always get through to him before I take it so I sit him down afterwards too and reexplain that everyone has big feelings sometimes and it's important that everyone do their "calm downs" because big feelings are hard for everyone including you, mama. Dada and even g-ma! Sometimes if possible I take a pause. Like walk away from everything for like 10 min; if that isn't possible I will sometimes take that 10+ with really good noise canceling headphones while still going. I understand the mom guilt but you are human; you have emotional and mental needs and thresholds; like everyone else, and when those needs arent being met but those thresholds are then ANYONE would snap a little The fact you feel bad, do what you can to mend things and are trying to improve means there is nothing wrong with you and you are a good mother but you need to take care of you too

I ran out of room but I also wanted to add I only have a toddler so I wouldn't know about the added difficulty of a baby too but taking time to emotionally regulate and explaining that emotional regulation to my little one has helped a bit with his outbursts too. I think to him it's like if mama uses "calm downs" than I can too the way that they mimic chores or songs or anything else that I do. I just hope that even though I am not in the exact situation that some of this is helpful to you. Good luck and best wishes! It sounds like you are doing great for what it is worth.

Keeping my cool used to be a huge struggle for me. I talked to my therapist about it & she has given me so many helpful tips to try. One thing that she advised was: -Tell your toddler that it is okay to feel upset -However, when she screams/yells/whines it hurts you (mom) and it's NOT okay to hurt other people -She is welcome to scream/yell/etc in her room and come back when she is ready -Help her feel in control with options. Would she like her door open or closed? Light on or off? I also try to deep breathe & remind myself "this will not last forever."

Sometimes I get real annoyed and I go “HEY!!!!>:(“ and then immediately after I start singing my feelings and what I need from them to lesson the tension 😂😂😂 is this good parenting? Probably not. Is it the best I can do rn? Heck yeah

When I first had my son I got overwhelmed and felt like I was reaching the end of my temper daily. What really worked for me was taking breaks! Maybe you need to have a day to yourself or even a couple hours a week (we set Saturday's as dad and baby day 🙂 and i am free to do whatever i want that day) Some quiet time every evening after your partner gets home? Even 20 minutes to just be alone helps reset and relax 😊 my husband does bedtime every night, so I get a few hours of me time and that works great.