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Kind of getting to the end of my wick here. So i dont get on with my brother and SIL. theyre spoilt and demanding and hes younger than me so he’s still the ‘baby’ of the family. Anyway, my husband and i have been married for 2 years and we have our LO who was born last November. We waited a bit after our wedding but got pregnant in the first attempt. Now my brother and SIL have been married less than a year, around 8 months, and they havent gotten pregnant yet. But somehow its our fault. Her GP told her that stress wont help with trying to conceive, so shes blaming our family on stressing her out (we literally dont do a thing to stress them. We barely see them lately and when we do its the them show) but shes diabetic also, and all they do is drink, she can drink 2 bottles of white a night every night of the week (no joke) and you can always find them in the pub, but they dont lead a healthy lifestyle at all. They’re always a little weird around our little girl, like ‘how dare we flaunt her in front of them?!’ Anyone got any experience with diabetes and pregnancy? Or any advice on how to deal with them? I can only be nice for so long before i say something I’ll regret if ‘we cant all have golden uterus’ and super sperm like you guys, if your family stop stressing us out we could get pregnant too!’ She also told me NOT to have another child before they have their first..

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They’re clearly deflecting because it’s their own lifestyles that is effecting them getting pregnant. If you want another baby you have one, don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise! I would probably tell her to where to shuv it tbh but I’m very upfront and honest 😅

The last sentence is hilarious 🙈 You will do what you want and what's right for your family! Diabetes doesn't necessarily need to delay pregnancy, but drinking every night and an unhealthy lifestyle will definitely stall things. If they don't see that then there's little you can do to support. You don't mention anybody's age here, but that is also a factor. I am 38 but got pregnant first time; possibly I got lucky, but I also believe it's due to lifestyle and eating/drinking the right things. And prioritising health. Being at the pub every night won't help them. And yes..it's the man's responsibility too. Healthy sperm is needed and it drops off after a certain age. A lot of men literally do nothing to help themselves here. Don't waste your time arguing with them or taking any of this seriously. They are understandably frustrated, but they don't need to take it out on you or dictate when you can have another (Wtf??) Enjoy your little girl and give them a LOT of space to work things out and make changes.

@Lucy my brother is 30 and his wife is 27. Im 31 and husband is 32. They dont see a problem with the drinking. Its how they ‘destress’ from the family. She goes on about how the drs told her to get pregnant sooner rather than later as the diabetes will make it harder for her the older she gets.

This is a "them" issue. Leave them to it. If she is "de-stressing" with two bottles of wine every night she's got bigger problems.

Sounds like a "them" problem rather than a "you" problem. If it were me I'd keep my distance, the more you are out of the picture the more they are going to have to look at other factors (which seems obvious that it's them causing the problems....) and if they don't then there's nothing much else you can do 🤷🏻‍♀️ And if you want another baby then that's your choice, nothing to do with anyone except you and your husband.

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