Please give me your thoughts, advice needed and appreciated🙏

I feel as if my partner forced me into calling our baby after his dad, and it’s really only dawning on me 1 year in :( So my partner’s dad passed away years ago and let’s say that his name was Theodore. I really didn’t want to call my baby this but his dad’s nickname was Ted. At the time my partner said things to me like “I want this name for my baby I can’t help if it my dad is dead, otherwise I wouldn’t be asking for it” So I came to the compromise with him that we could put Theodore on the birth cert but that on the daily we would call him Ted, which my partner agreed to. We also put Ted on the birth cert. Now he uses the name Theodore everywhere including when we meet people or go to appointments:( If someone asks me the child’s name in front of him I have to say Theodore or else he corrects me. In addition to this, I found out some very bad things about his Father after I agreed to name the child after him. That he had babies with several different woman and laid hands on most women he was with. Can I really go back to my partner after a year and be like this is not acceptable to me and not what we agreed. It could end our relationship. (Everyone else in our life is using Ted thankfully including my partners family as they didn’t like their own dad)

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You can change the child’s name on their birth certificate up to age 2. If you really don’t like it, better to change it now early on than be resentful years later. https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/scotland/family/birth-certificates-and-changing-your-name-s/birth-certificates-s/#:~:text=Changing%20the%20child's%20name,be%20removed%20from%20the%20certificate.

Only you can weigh up if its worth the likely argument (and possible damage to the relationship) over a name! Personally I'd be pissed I felt I had to name my child something I hated. I would've insisted using Theodore only as a middle name. But then my OH agreed to this idea if we'd had a boy. I'm not sure to what extent I'd have refused if that were the situation. A name is for life so it is a big deal. Not sure why your OH is so hell bent on using the full name when you'd agreed to a nickname. Especially when it sounds like his dad wasn't a nice person. I think you're well within your right to insist on calling your son Ted 🤷‍♀️ but not sure it's worth losing your OH over it, if it came to that.

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