Fed up of this woman

Hi, I’ll make this as short as I can lol. My mil is a horrible narcissist, ever since I’ve married my husband she treated both me and my husband like shit and even done and said some very bad things about my 2 year old. she made my pregnancy and postpartum hell and caused me so much trauma that I had to go to therapy. I feel like my husband is still trapped in this cycle with her. There was some very weird emotional incest things going on that my husband ofc thought it was normal until I was like wth this isn’t ( she’d call him into her room at night while we would be in bed because she was lonely and even came into our room once in the morning and got in bed with us while I was only wearing a top and knickers !) but honestly it’s like a constant thing of her doing crap to us and us having to tell her to stop and then them getting into an argument and I’m just exhausted! I’m Pregnant and very close to my due date and I just hope she don’t ruin this for me too once again. My husband said he will have a talk with her before I give birth to make sure she’s not overstepping any boundaries but boundaries don’t exists to her. My husband and her got into an argument the other day because she asked him if he was home and he responded with “ no I’m not, why is everything okay? “ She didn’t like his response so she went off on him and said some very horrible things but ofc she blamed the whole conflict between them two on me 👍. Now she has invited family over for dinner to her house tomorrow and she asked my BIL to ask us if we was coming to which obvs the only reason she wants us there is so her family thinks we’re all good. AND OFC MY HUSBAND IS CONSIDERING GOING! Honeslty this whole cycle is driving me crazy !

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She sounds like she fancies her own son, I have heard of some mums being like this. I would block and avoid contact with her

@Charas SHE DOES! She’s so weird, when she hugs him she rubs her head on his chest like a cat lol and the other day she kept on sniffing his neck and going “ mmm u smell so good “ even my husbands uncle looked at me smiling and gave her a side eye lol. We tried the no contact thing but it lasted 4 months lol

Why did it only last 4 months? Try it again and stick with it. It’s not normal what she is doing

I feel it’s the husband’s duty to protect you from the family he’s married you into. My MIL lashed out at me over opposing opinions, she claimed was “giving me advice” in my second trimester with my twins. It took my husband a few incidents and a HUGE talking to about the duties I mentioned above for him to understand. Another big blowout between him and MIL and a few weeks of no contact for her to realize what she would be missing out on if she didn’t sort herself out. I hope any of this is helpful for you ❣️ best of luck love!

@Charas family from both mine and his side kept on getting involved and forcing us to speak again because “ u can’t stop speaking to your mother because she’s your mum regardless of what she does “

I would cut them out too then if they can’t respect you

@Jae he always stands up for me, we even stopped speaking to her for 4 months but there’s no change from her, she’s actually even told my husband that she’s never gonna change so at this point it’s just us constantly having to remind her to respect us and our boundaries and then more arguments and abuse.

@Charas I know I should, it’s just so annoying. No one gets involved when it’s the mother being abusive and all we hear is “ just be patient with her” but when we finally have enough then everyone wants to feel sorry for her

I’d cut her off! It’s for good reason

You guys are so enmeshed with her toxic behavior. Give your husband two choices..divorce or therapy so that he knows you’re serious, tell him how you can’t take the horrible behavior anymore. And stop listening to people who tell you that just bc they are faaaamilyy you have to speak to them. No, you don’t..cut them out of your lives and protect your children from it. What she’s doing is not okay, and she already told you she’s not changing. So that means she needs to be cut off for good.

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