Toddlers during birth
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I asked friends, but was going to use the bubble app as a last resort. You can meet them beforehand as well. X
I had an induction, so that way we knew when to plan things. Got friends over to babysit our toddler. But my husband stayed at home until it was time for me to push. Mabey an option?
We’re having to fly my sister in for a few weeks since I don’t know when I’ll be giving birth because we have no family or friends in our state we just moved here a while ago…
We had my brother but family doesn't seem to be an option for you. I'd recommend friends - if she isn't familiar with them, try get them to be beforehand or as recommended above join a group where you can meet another mother who will help you.
Oh man the “I didn’t want you to know” would be such a red flag for me. I need total transparency when it comes to the little ones. But in the end if you know it will only be a day or two and trust one of the moms to just keep her safe and fed, I might push through and your partner can do frequent checks. I know people like care.com to find a sitter/nanny. Also, I highly doubt I’m close enough to help but if you are in NE PA and want to meet let me know. How many weeks along are you?
@Dea 23 weeks and I’m moving to Dallas at 32 weeks. It’s where my family is but none of my friends could probably handle it…
Right. Just 24-48 hours may not be too bad. You’ve got a sacrifice to make and that’s hard. When I had my third my other two were 5yo and 1yo and that is too much for my dad longer than a few hours. So we decided our sacrifice would be me spending the night alone at the hospital. However, what really happened was I had my third around 1pm and then by 6pm my husband went home and helped with bedtime routine. He came back to the hospital around 10pm (15-Min. Drive). I’m sure he snuck in a nap and shower too. Then he got up with baby at like 6am for a little and then went home and made it for morning routine while baby and I napped. The kids came to the hospital with my husband. And we all left together that afternoon. I barely noticed he was gone. And for added comfort a camera in their room would have been handy too. 🤷♀️
@Kat right now we don’t have a place to live where we are moving, but I would definitely feel better with camera access. My daughter has never slept through the night and will scream for me. I don’t want her to be scared and worried for me. I had to go to the ER about a month ago and she was so worried and didn’t want to go to sleep and when I got home she snuggled me so hard. And I was only gone for like 4 hours. My husband does really good with her but I don’t know if anyone else would be able to sit there and calm her
I gave birth to my second on my own, she came really early and we had nobody around who could watch my eldest. It was a scary experience to begin with but afterwards it was a way better birth than my first and it showed me how strong I was x
Like ppl said there’s ppl who will help but it’s about trust obviously, maybe a boss/their wife or something like that also! I recently was informed there’s SIBLING DOULAS so they watch ur kid!
We made friends literally a couple weeks before that watched him. We joined a Bible study and asked around if anyone could. Maybe join some moms group or Bible study and see if someone can that you like and trust