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@D totally agree with you! That's just it. She still sees me as a child! It's so irritating. And sometimes it feels like she can't understand that I am married. She emotionally blackmails me! It's so painful and always wants me to apologise. Today, I respectfully told her to reduce her voice to not wake my daughter up and she said I was disrespectful in my tone. I can't deal. I agree. I have to sit her down and tell her she had to go.
Sometimes there's stuff going on with our parents that we cannot see or know and quite often they don't know themselves but it's not our job to fix their damage. This sounds like it isn't about you but she is projecting onto you. That's not a conversation you necessarily need to have with her. Just protect your peace. Would you mind letting us know how it goes?
Sure! I'll let you know how it goes
It didn't go so well. She's keeping to herself now like I am the worst. She didn't see it from my point of view and its so painful cos it looks like our relationship has hit the rock. I wish she'd understand and even try to make amends. She wants to be right everytime.
Sorry, just seen this. Is she not going home?
She'd be going home next month. She's trying to behave better now. I hope it stays that way
You're a grown woman with a child, she can't keep treating you like a child at this stage, your relationship gas to evolve for it to function. Whilst adult to adult communication is required at this stage, it sounds like she's still communicating in a parent to child fashion. If she is more than a hindrance than a help in your home at this point and you'd like her to leave, I would sit with her and say that it's not working out and you've seen a change to your relationship that is making you unhappy and that you think it's best for her to return home so that no further damage is done to your relationship and you can look at rebuilding with her when you're in a better place. You love her, it's just not a fit for the circumstances.