MIL issues

What the !!!

I totally get it, my MIL says she's going to be in the carpark whilst I'm giving birth 🫣 when she's talks to people she also says "we're 'x' amount of weeks". It's really hard when your partner doesn't understand this is crossing boundaries you feel comfortable with. Can you try and explain to her you need some time in your baby bubble with your partner and also some time to work out what you're doing so she won't be able to come round everyday? Failing that, maybe move? 😂

I think you just need to be upfront with her. This is about you, it’s you that has carried the baby, looked after yourself throughout pregnancy, dealt with the horrible bits! And you are the mum, you will be the main caregiver. It sounds like she is overstepping boundaries and if your partner won’t put their foot down or intervene (shit on their behalf) then you need to protect your baby and your own peace. Just be direct and leave the emotion out of it. ‘Hey, I love that you are so excited about the baby’s arrival. However there are somethings I have noticed that are making me uncomfortable. I have made a universal rule that I want time with just us (you, your partner and baby) as a family at least for the first couple of weeks. I want this time exclusively to settle into a routine and get on our feet before welcoming any guests. I am happy to let you know when we may be taking visitors’ If your partner kicks off, then tell him when he can carry a baby for nine months

And takes over the majority of the care, then he too can dictate as when you have visitors. This is coming from someone who was stomped all over postpartum, had a known I would have my foot down much earlier.