Fitting in self care

This is so meee

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At the moment rather than just scrolling when sitting with baby upright after bedtime feed I put my bag next to me and so one handed I cleanse, tone, moisturise and oil one handed. I find morning showers easier than nighttime showers unless my partner does bedtime, apart from that the day to day is hard!

My newborn is 3 months now and I’m still trying to figure this out with him and a 3 yo

I have a newborn and a toddler lol so it’s been a struggle

These nails are so cute btw

You just do. I'm sure you can find 5 mins at a time to take to yourself. Or Time block with your husband. "Hey, I'd like to get/ do___. When is a good time for you to watch the kids for a hour?" Then book it with him right there. I did that with my husband last week. Tomorrow I have a mani pedi apt I'll be gone for 2 hours. I don't feel guilty for decisions. Me time is perfectly healthy and normal. No need to feel bad that you wanted some time away from them. Its an hour or two. Not like its a daily thing though in all honesty an hour every day to ourselves would be heaven. Bo guild or shame in that. The kids will be just fine with dad. Let go of the control. Also off load some tasks even if it's not done "how you would do it" less mental load feels great!

This is me, but now my kids are older and I’ve gotten better with it. They’re 2.5 years and 10 months. Once the younger baby can sleep longer, it gets easier and other people are able to step in and help more. I take a couple days a month and go out after putting the babies to bed with other women. We tried dancing, karaoke, and pool and all made me feel better. I found that if I’m less depressed then I’m able to take better care of myself and the babies. So I started a gratitude journal and joined a mom workout group where you workout together with your babies in strollers. Just taking showers helps me feel more human too, so if I need one, I’ll squeeze the playpen in the bathroom haha or I’ll take my older daughter in the shower with me while my youngest is napping. With all that said, you’re not a troll even at your worst! But remember that you can be a better mom if you’re happy too, so ask for help. ❤️

Definitely make it clear to your husband when you need time. If he has time to shower etc then so should you and he's not stuck with a trolley but instead blessed to be with someone who has grown and nurtured 2 amazing children.

My daughter and I would shower together and I would hop out first, do my skin care, brush my hair, brush my teeth etc before getting her out. My baby would be in his bouncer (or his pram sometimes) in the bathroom where I could see him and I would make sure he was fed and changed so he would be comfortable the whole time. I also go to a gym that has a crèche. It’s only 50 mins a couple times a week but it feels so good to not just be a mum for those 50 mins.

Oh no brushing teeth showering and doing my hair light makeup for the day is bare minimum to me. I won’t start my day without it. Because I take them to their groups and sessions, are heading out for the day. The kids can stay in my room if they like and watch me and chat to me while I do hair and makeup or they stay in the lounge or baby in the crib and as long as they’re not crying/demanding me, I tend to myself. Then I’ll plan nights w my friends on Fri/Sat night and he does bedtime or I’ll put the baby to sleep he deals w the toddler and I leave for a couple hrs, toddler usually sleeps through and I’ll get back in time for feeding baby at 11. Or 1. Depending what I’m doing. Then I’ll plan for myself a Pilates or Zumba class when they were younger I’d choose the 6-7pm ones as they got older I can choose the 7-8pm classes. But I don’t have trouble taking care of myself, when I look good I feel good so I make sure i look good if only for myself. I have a boy he’s 5 now but he’s my 3rd