Sleep - leaving the room tactics
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We don’t feed to sleep but we have the same problem and it’s driving us mad! She used to sleep fine in her cot, we could walk out no problem but the last couple of weeks it’s been really hard and she constantly wants us to soothe her back to sleep, Sorry not much help but your not on your own x
We have the same issue with creaky floorboards so empathise with this however I think sometimes it’s coincidental, as in they were probably going to wake anyways even if you had gotten a bit further. There is another wave of separation anxiety around this age too. The worst thing we can do is sneak away even though we used to do this lots It’s so disorientating for them… the last thing they remember is you either being there or in your arms/feeding and then you are gone. It’s harder initially but better long term to be clear in your intention. You could even start by saying before feeding to sleep - mummy is going to feed you and put you to bed and then leave. And then when you put in cot, say night, mummy is leaving now even if asleep. You can keep feeding to sleep if you wanted to. This was our last BF to cut. Feeding to sleep can mask overtiredness too which could also be causing this.
I have the same thing, and I’ve been cosleeping because of this. This week I have started weaning, she had her last feed Monday nap time. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to get back in my own bed without weaning her first. The first night was rough, we she only slept 10-2. But second night she slept 10-2 and then 2:15-9, the best she has ever slept. Last night was 9-12 and then 1-6:30. Once the boob-sleep association is gone, I’ll start moving away from her gradually each night.
I don’t have much advise I’m afraid as we still mostly cuddle/rock my son to sleep but do you have any white noise on in the room? I find that helps to muffle any other noises that might wake him otherwise. Good luck xx