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I’m right there with you. I have a 7 month old and my due date is 10 days before my girls first birthday, we also co sleep and plan on having second girl in the bassinet while keeping my first in bed (my husband insists she stays) lol

I’ve been thinking about this too… my 14 month old sleeps with me, since birth. And I want me newborn close but not close enough for the one year old to lay on him

I’m also having this dilemma. My daughter (20 months) sleeps with me, and has since birth and I want her to stay, but I also don’t want to treat baby #2 differently. I’m worried about my daughter rolling on the new baby, or wanting to sleep closest to me, and the baby being in the way. The easiest would be baby in a bassinet but that just makes me feel major mom guilt for the new baby not getting the same treatment.

@Bethany right!!! The mom guilt is eating me up as months get closer. Idk what to do. He won’t stay sleep with his dad , and it’s hard to tell a toddler to stay still…. But I definitely don’t want baby #2 to have a different experience ( tho they “ won’t remember “ I will!)

As far as @Samantha baby’s will cry and it will take adjustment for them not to wake up when the other wakes or cries. But newborns sleep a lot and are use to sound. Since they heard it in the womb anyways. So I think you should be ok . But I would play crying baby videos for the toddler and teach her baby needs something and model the behavior with a teddy or a doll.

@Jewelz exactly. I don’t want to feel like I have a different bond strength. I already feel guilty because I feel like the new baby won’t have the same bond anyway, because I won’t have the one on one time for her like I did with my first daughter.

Thanks everyone one it makes me feel a little better that I'm not alone

I have the same problem but my toddler is 2. She’s gonna have to learn how to be a big girl and let mama sleep with baby when the time comes. I’m not stressing abt it. We will all be fine lol

I’d put the toddler in a toddler bed in their room. The baby needs to be in the same room as mom for the first few months for safety, but a toddler will be fine and safe sleeping in their own room.