Declining visits
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I agree with you, I think it’s important to vice that you would like to spend the time with your baby and husband and would appreciate that they respect that. You can always say that you need the time to heal and connect with the baby and explain about immunisation which is something that you are concern as you won’t let anyone carry the baby. That’s what I’m planing to do
Yeah, I did this. I just sent a message on the way to the hospital to let them know baby was on the way and to wait to hear from us, let us enjoy the time with our newborn and when we are ready we would send pics, make calls etc and then also mentioned that when we were home we'd let them know when ready for visitors. It worked fine 😀
I personally didn’t tell anyone I was in labour apart from one person who could run to grab stuff for us if we needed it xx We just said that when the time came we wanted to be able to soak in everything and enjoy it being the 3 of you for a short period of time xx
Most hospitals won’t allow that kind of waiting visitors they don’t have the space for it. It’s generally a rule of 2 visitors on the ward afterwards. This includes your partner within the 2. Honestly it’s not a bad shout to not let them know you’ve gone in as you never know how long things will take and how you will feel afterwards. If you do want to let them know that you go in they need to be clear that they will not be getting frequent updates while you are there. You will be busy and your partner will be busy supporting you. It took me 2 days to text most people afterwards
The only ones who knew I went into labour were my parents & husband. By the time I was recovering spending quality time with sweet baby boy, my family & friends were told that there’s strict visiting hours in the hospital so it would be pointless to visit. Worked out well without having to explain ourselves 🤷🏻♀️
Stick to your boundaries! You never get those first moments back and if you want to experience those moments with just you and your partner that's completely valid. You have to do what's best for you. Visitors can wait ❤️ We only allowed my husband's parents to visit in the hospital and they was only there for about 10 mins, enough time to hold the baby and have a photo. My son was born 5 days before my 30th birthday and my parents who I have a complicated relationship with guilt tripped me into coming to visit (back story, we live 3 hours away from family so it wasn't a simple pop in for 20 minutes) they made me feel guilty for not allowing them to visit so in the end I did. In hindsight I would of stuck to my boundaries and only allow visitors when I was ready.
I doubt the hospital would allow that especially in the middle of the night. Just tell them you will let them know when they take you down to the ward and take it from there. That said once my oh left to get changed, sleep and feed the cats I did appreciate my parents visiting. Apart from anything I didn’t like leaving the baby to go to the toilet and the company was nice.