How do I get that spark back?
So confused about my relationship since having a baby. Baby is now 1 and we've probably had sex 4 or 5 times since. We're now in month 3 of no sex or anything. Not even a snog. Every time I feel like I'm getting in the mood for it and think I'll go for it later on when we can, something happens and he irritates me and that's the end of it. I also feel like it's got awkward. Like I don't even know how to try it on anymore or how I'd react if he did.
We've been arguing and bickering a lot lately as we'll. My husband has a good job and is a lovely person but he doesn't lift a finger in the home which I find so very triggering especially because he's so messy! When it gets towards the end of the day I start to feel annoyed at the chores he's left me with which completely turns me off!
I don't like feeling like this. Is it happening with anyone else? Or anyone been there and came out the other side??
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Honest open conversations help. Also something to consider is if he has any post partum depression etc... dads get it too and it can present in these ways
Just talk to him about it, explain what's going on with you, what you want and how you can work together to fix it.
Have you told him in detail like this post?
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Ah yup, you've lost the drive because you're not just your babies mum. you've become his mum, and you shouldn't have to be. Have you spoken to him about all that? It's really good to have honest chats. He needs to pull his weight around the house and do his share of chores, etc, and tidy after himself. I wouldnt want to f%^k my husband either if he was doing what you've described. If it was me... id be having a big chat with him about it and resolving the household issue. And explain to him, that its not sexy and a huge turn off if you have to clean up after him like his mother.... i asked my husband at one point, point blank.... do you want to f*&k your mother? He was surprised and said no, and i said exactly so stop being a child and clean up after yourself and do your share. I also reminded him that if he was single etc hed have to do everything himself. Lol