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Please tell me it’s for the better with a sibling. I feel like I got pregnant more for my husbands sake. I had extreme PPD and still feel like the world of caving in with an almost 2 year old. I will be giving birth when she is 2.5 and on top of PPD it will be the beginning of the long cold winter months and start of at the sicknesses. I keep thinking of only it wasn’t right at the beginning of the winter months. I am terrified of the first 4 months and quite frankly beyond that. I just am finally starting to feel like myself again. My husband and I are making time for eachother and the nights don’t seem so scary. I don’t want to restart this long road. I feel like a bad mother when I lose my temper which is often. My girl is extremely clingy. I hate that I enjoy when she visits her grandparents for the weekend she isn’t even 2, feel like I shouldn’t let her go for a whole weekend. Does it get harder with two?

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PPD is so hard, dont feel guilty for enjoying having time to yourself with a kid free weekend💗 it takes a village! having a kid free weekend and time to yourself to recollect and have you time is the best way to keep PPD in check and feel like yourself! i just had my first baby two months ago and have been debating if giving her a sibling one day is worth it, ive been experimenting PPD as well and its really hard. you got this mama💗💗

I didn’t have ppd and I was struggling with the new dynamic. My older daughter is very clingy and jealous of baby and she has so many emotions to regulate and I will say most days are harder than not so I can’t imagine throwing in ppd to the mix. But I will say that giving my daughter a sister is the best decision I’ve made. A sacrificial , selfless one because is it hard yes but worth it for your child. I know I personally am so grateful I have my sister. I would feel so alone if I didn’t have her.

It is better with a sibling, I unfortunately had my kids to close and it was a real bad love hate relationship with them. They recently have just started to get along better and more often then before. I had ppd with my 2nd and it was hard. I didn't want to be pregnant when I found out I was the 2nd time so that hindered my bond with him. My first would get really mad at his brother when my first born was told no or something. The baby ended up getting pinched and bit but we knew he was probably on the autism spectrum so more of that was expected but not as bad as it was at times. I think with your age gap on kids it will be better then what I went through, and having mom time no kids, I live for that and don't feel bad or anything because we have to take care of ourselves to take care of the family. My kids go to my parents for weeks at a time in summer and it's great. It will take a bit for a routine with new baby and toddler but it will happen and dressing kids a like is fun 😁.

I think it is better with a sibling. My first born was so bored and having a brother made it better for him. That being said my PPD with my second was terrible. I really regret not getting antidepressants. I did want to because I was breastfeeding, but honestly the babies feel your depression and I think it is worse. Ask for help from family and friends. With my third I was a lot more verbal about my PPD and overwhelm so I had a lot more support, which I needed.

I dealt with bad ppd as well and didn't know how I would take care of two kiddos. Feel free to message me. I'm happy to be a friend. 🩷

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