Can my partner see my baby without me there?
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It’s between just the two of us but I know he’s not going to want me there. But the first 2 months of his life he didn’t bother with him even though we all lived together so I don’t particularly want him To see him without me. And as for His mum who claims she loves him so much but smokes around him and kisses his hands before his jabs when I literally said he’s been putting them in his mouth? Neither of them care and I’m not happy about just leaving him there
I have no personal experience with this and I’d advise seeking professional/legal advice but I don’t think you have to (legally) I’m pretty sure in these instances you can refuse. It would be down to the dad to then proceed with obtaining custody rights legally. I 1000% advocate for not leaving your baby with anyone or anywhere that you’re not comfortable with. And in this case where he wasn’t bothering with him at first etc, I would definitely not
@Yasmin I will thank you I just wondered if someone else had been through this already and could maybe advise me. Thank you though. I’ll fight to the death for him if I have too x
Just make it crystal that if he wants to see his kid your to be there until you know he will follow your rules. My little one has been with her dad twice without me for about 4 hours and he was ringing me constantly because he didn’t listen to me and her routine. He’ll just come over to mine now and see her for like an hour after he finishes work on the weekday as she’s in bed by seven and on the weekend for a few hours
As far as I know, if you’re not divorced and have the full time custody, legally he can have the baby without you there if you’re married . I would call citizen advice, even ask chat gpt, do a little research and of course professional advice.
If his name is on the birth certificate then he has the same legal rights as you. If you want to have any other arrangements then you would need to go to court to put this in place. If you stop him from seeing his child without a reason that a court would think is valid, and have proof, then it will look bad on you
I’m not stopping him though just not without me there
I can't see why that would be a problem then. The issue comes if you stop access. If you don't think he can do it without you there then I wouldn't leave either
It depends on what they want also I suppose. If they’re comfortable with you being in their home. Nothing is stopping you staying close by like going for a walk or something. Just ask say when I come with the baby can I stay for the first few times so I know everything is okay for my own peace of mind. Is this a court order or your own thing between the two of you?