Giving birth alone

I do understand your point of view when it comes to mental health. But having someone with you it will be safer for you and the baby. We never know what it can happen, we always have to look both ways. I hope everything works out for you. If you need someone to talk please reach out 🤍

If you don't want anyone there, then that is your call. They will be advising you have someone with you, because otherwise you will be alone a lot and a birth partner is there to support you, call for help if needed, ensure you eat and drink, provide physical support, help you decide what to do when you are faced with decisions. Why not plan to have some one in the hospital, but not actually in the room with you unless you want them there?

I’m choosing not to have anyone with me too. I mentioned it to the midwife at my antenatal class at the weekend as I was cautious that I may not be able to use the birthing pool without a birth partner present and she said I don’t have to I if I don’t want to and seemed fine about it. I am going to have my mum as a sort of on call birth partner and so if on the day I decide actually I do want someone then she will come but ideally I want to be alone. Its my first and so I know that I won’t know how I’ll react to labour/birth, but I do know that generally in stressful situations I deal better being alone and not having to deal with any background voices or presence which is why I’m choosing to do it alone

Ive just had a baby 6 days ago and was hoping for a natural birth. Ut ended up on drip with then having a c-s. I had my patenter with me mainly because he wanted to see the child being born, and he was helpful all the time. But It did upset him seeing how much pain I went thought and he could have done very little in helping me. My initial thought was to be alone, as even when I have really bad period type pain cramps on the my first day I just want to hide and deal with it alone. Overall I would say, its a good addition to have a birth partner, but the staff at the labour ward and very , very helpful and empathetic and they would look after you well. It also depends on how the labour goes and potentially they wont rub your back ( they may do, not sure), but they were really helpful.

I was too unwell to hold my baby for an hour after he was born so he had skin to skin with my partner- worth thinking if you’d be happy for a stranger to be the first one to hold them etc if things went wrong - good luck xx

@Rebecca I agree! My husband had our baby for basically the first 6 hours other than me giving one little feed. It would have made me feel like an even worse mum had it been a stranger holding him/him being in a basinet