Attention

Yes. It’s normal to want attention and such, and normal to not to want to have to ask for quality time in order to get any etc. Your partner should want to spend time with you. Check online all the “is my partner a narcissist” lists. Check “neglectful narcissist” and “covert narcissist” also. They can be a combo. Mine didn’t love-bomb. He didn’t get us together too quickly or shower me with gifts. But he DID have a mask on, for years, of being a nice, honest, compassionate, mature person. He is none of those things. His mask is off now, and he is a manipulator and controller who feels secretly good when I feel sad. 😞 My partner really seemed like a dismissive avoidant (just fearful of connection, needing therapy to heal). But he lies, he subtly controls by disapproving when I’m happy or sad, can’t take accountability for wrongdoings, manipulates. All while playing nice to everyone else. So he’s a narcissist—or at the very least, an abuser. 😞

@Ele I’m so sorry to hear that and thank you for the advice

Sending love to you. You deserve to be CHERISHED. and to have someone who enjoys being cherished by you!

@Ele thank you 💜

I completely get where you’re coming from. I used to feel the same way in my relationship. I finally had a real talk with my husband and told him what I needed — more reassurance and attention. After that, he really started making more of an effort to check up on me and be more present. It’s not 100% perfect, like exactly how I imagined it in my head, but I can tell he’s trying, and honestly that’s what we as women really want — to feel cared about and seen without having to constantly ask for it. My tip would be to have a calm, open conversation about it — not in a blaming way, but more like explaining how it would make you feel more loved. A good partner will want to know how to show up better once they understand. Sometimes they genuinely just don’t realize until we say something.

@Shay thank you for your advice I will do that