Sex drive?

I'm in a similar spot. I'm just stressed and exhausted, nothing to do with my partner. Honestly, I try to just make sure every few days we do it. I never regret doing it, but it's just not something high on my list at the moment

tbh my sex drive increased after I started reading romance and romantasy books. 😅😂

Have you tried maybe talking to your doctor about it? It also took me a while to get back into wanting to have sex but like Aly said I also would make sure we did it every so often like once or twice every couple weeks lol . But some people just take a little longer to feel normal again after having a baby

My husband of 13 years and used to have relations 2x a week or maybe more, then after about 8 years together 2-3x a month. And now with kids we are solid with 1-2x every 4-6 weeks. I don’t have a high drive like I did. I’m tired and so is he. I want to feel the “mood”. Be clean. Shave. Etc. He might want it a little more often.. but having it be when the time is right and not just doing it has provided a richer sex life when we do. This works great for us. But everyone is different! I hope that helps!

And when I’m pregnant I pretty much don’t want to at alllllllll 🤣

Thanks for the feedback all! I may talk to my doctor. Related to your point @Jo I honestly can’t remember the last time I was in the “mood” and that’s the biggest problem - I want that too! I don’t want it to feel like a task I have to accomplish.

Totally! And it shouldn’t feel that way! It’s not a chore it’s a connection. It should always feel like you want to! Because that’s when it’s the best sex and emotional connection as well 😊 that makes you want it more anyway

Yes I feel the same way. I just stopped taking my antidepressants and I’m hoping some of it comes back. It truly feels like just another task at this point. My husband is wonderful too but it’s like ok we are in bed I just got comfortable and now you’re rubbing my back. It’s to predictable at this point and I hate that. But when is there ever a time that we can just be sexy together? It feels like never lol

Same thing. Literally since first trimester which was what 2 years ago??? I literally get in the mood ONCE a month and it’s during ovulation. Then it just never comes back, it was high pre pregnancy. I’m hoping at the 2 year mark postpartum it returns.