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It's normal to focus on the child in your arms rather than the one you can't see. Once the new one arrives I think you'll not want to do anything but breastfeed and you'll get into a routine. Also by 18m it's likely that your bigger one will be feeding less during the night. Remember breastfeeding is easier than formula or even expressing so once you get established it will make your life easier rather than trying to do 2 different methods. And lastly I've always found breastfeeding the easiest way to get children to sleep so if you're doing bedtime for 2, it will make it easier rather than harder once you find a position that works for you all.
I agree with Kiki. You're stressing and overthinking something that may not even be an issue by the time baby comes. Worry about it if it comes. Stress isn't good for the baby. Relax mama!
At 17 mos my toddler is only nursing before nap and before bed— and mind you, he was nursing every few hours at 13 months! So lot can change before baby arrives with your toddler’s schedule! And they may also self wean a bit due to the change in taste of your breastmilk! Don’t get ahead of yourself— it may be totally manageable and sustainable to keep a few feeds for your toddler even with the NB
Lots can change between now and when new baby arrives, I agree with the others don't stress until nearer the time. And also, it's not quite the same but It tandem ebf my twins for 6 months (until one fully kicked herself off the boob) and it was totally doable. I've read that if you tandem feed siblings of different ages the older established eater often helps your supply for new baby as they're so efficient at extracting milk your supply should be fabulous x
Tandem nurse! I was worried too but nursed all throughout my pregnancy and nursing both my toddler and newborn went surprisingly well. I introduced a baby doll to my son starting in my third trimester and would carry it around the house, pretend to nurse it, etc which helped him get used to the idea before the new baby arrived.
@Mou I ebf twins for 2y 1m so definitely doable for 2 children. Also your body makes different milk for the 2 different children to respond to their needs.
Congratulations! Im exclusively breastfeeding one baby and could not imagine having to nurse two under two, but certainly it is possible, our bodies are amazing, I think once your in the thick of the situation you’ll naturally figure it out.. your mommy instincts will kick in and guide you, no need to stress abt it. Just enjoy nursing your one baby because before you know it you’ll have two clawing at you 😂🥰