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Second baby

Has anyone else found this pregnancy so much harder than their previous? Very close to due date now. But I am in so much pain. I have a toddler and people say to me “oh it’s so much harder with having a little one to run around after”. But it’s not actually that I’m struggling with. I have a fairly chilled out child, she of course has her times of being energetic but for the most part, she is quite chilled and in a good routine, has her nursery days when I’m working, eats and sleeps well. The pressure I have in the pelvis is extreme and nothing like what I had first time round. I’m taking paracetamol every 4 hours, wearing a support belt and sitting on the birth ball when I can. Between that and heartburn which has resurfaced with a vengeance since start of 3rd trimester, I just feel miserable. I can’t explain the level of pain I’m in to my partner and I’ve felt that this entire pregnancy has been me complaining over one thing or another, particularly the last few weeks. I struggle to do most things, even standing at the sink to do the dishes, I’m obviously doing all of these things anyway but in agony whilst doing it. When the pain is really bad, I’m literally limping to take pressure off the left side which is the worst side. I think he is probably frustrated when he sees me sitting - the other evening the pain was so bad I had to lay on the bed, I was sitting propped up, but he couldn’t understand why I was lying down when it was still early evening. I said I just needed 10 minutes but he was visibly confused. I’ve even said I really want the baby to be born now. And he can’t understand, he says that he thought pregnancy was supposed to be enjoyable. I can see in myself I look exhausted and drained. I get nervous any time I have to see his family, I try to be positive but, I feel like I’m coming across ungrateful. I’m really struggling with it all, and it doesn’t help that I don’t have family nearby. And it’s different with my own family, I have a lot of nieces and nephews so I know my own sisters completely get this but I feel like he and his family don’t get it and probably don’t like being around me at the moment. Especially because the first time I was pregnant was really fine right up until birth. I really am grateful to be having another baby. I am just struggling.

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I can empathise totally. My first pregnancy felt like a breeze in comparison and it's absolutely because I could rest so much more. We don't have that luxury this time, and our bodies remember what happened before so our symptoms are worse. I'm sorry your partner isn't more understanding, especially at this point in the pregnancy. You're nearly there and doing amazing❤️

Remember you can be extremely grateful for your baby, but that does not mean you have to enjoy pregnancy in order to be greatful. In all honesty, I hate being pregnant. It is extremely difficult, with pain, nausea, whatever your symptoms may be, and it can be extremely debilitating. I don't understand where your partner has got the idea that pregnancy is supposed to be enjoyable. It might be for some, but for others, it's just a slog to the finish line.

Yup, I'm finding this pregnancy so much harder too and I don't think it has much to do with my toddler either. It's all the physical symptoms being so much worse. Like BH are actually painful for example. My back has been killing me for many weeks now. I'm 37 weeks next week and I've been feeling done for a good while. My first was nearly 2 weeks overdue and I'm really really hoping this one isn't because I'm not sure how to deal with another month+ of this... Thankfully, my husband has been superb, picking up a lot of slack and even just being sympathetic. He only tells me off for apologising all the time for not being able to do stuff 🙈

Oh i totally agree, my first felt so easy even thought i had complications towards the end and this time around nothing but feels so much more harder, my LG will be 2 in june snd shes not a demanding baby by all means its just i physically cant keep up with her and cant do all the things I want to do which kills me! That first pregnancy bubble has well and truley burst, pregnancy is not as nice or beautiful as i thought i was very naive lol

my first pregnancy was shit, i had reflux and heartburn that never eased and i didn’t gain any weight at all cause i was just vomiting all the time, but at least i could stay in bed and do nothing, this time round i’m still vomiting but i’m expected to run around and entertain my 3 year old all day and i’m just shattered

He thought pregnancy was meant to be enjoyable? My husband is completely disinterested of how this actually feels. It’s a waste of breathe trying to explain!

I’m 35 weeks with my second and also really struggling. Sciatica is killing me add that to running after a 22 month old toddler and I’m in so much pain I can barely walk.

Yeah! This 2nd pregnancy I literally caught a virus every 3-4 weeks since October. I've had 2 courses of antibiotics in 3 months. I do put a lot of that down to my toddler being at nursery because he's bringing home everything but yeah it's been hard. Heartburn was much worse this time for me too, I don't remember having it too bad with my first. I'm not sleeping because of hip pain but I did have the exact same last time. It made me laugh that your partner thought pregnancy was meant to be enjoyable 😂 where did he get that idea haha. Mine asked if everyone complains this much haha but honestly I couldn't even argue I've had so many ailments I'm sick of hearing myself complain. To be honest though I just don't enjoy pregnancy and I think we are sold this glowing image and it never happened for me either pregnancy. I never got a burst of energy or felt great. I feel exhausted, in pain and flat. I loved having a newborn compared to my last pregnancy and I'm looking forward to the same. Almost there!

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