So my babies great

I have 193729 more stories I could add on this subject (just joined! Hi!) but I’ll start with the most recent. My MIL takes ALLL the credit for my baby being “the way he is”. I’m assuming she’s relating it to how her son was and because they both were and are “happy babies”. Let me explain. My baby was 6weeks early and spent 46 days in the nicu after a placental abruption. No known inflected cause. Which she GRILLED me on, to the point of asking “if you two were bothering with sex still even though it’s pointless while you’re pregnant” (uh, what?) Anyway. He came home sleep trained from the nicu, and sleeping in his own bassinet very easily. Bottle trained already as well, and doesn’t mind entertaining himself for a few minutes if left alone in his bassinet. Well. MIL, will say things like “you better thank me for that happy baby!” “You’re lucky he sleeps just like his daddy! Better remember who taught him that! So must be where he got it from” *wink* insinuating that because my husband slept well from her mothering, must be why my little boy sleeps well, all sort of little comments. When she tells me “don’t forget to take care of my perfect little man!” I want to snap, but always just bite my tongue. I don’t even take credit for his demeanor, I’m sure it’s from being in the nicu. But she insists on saying multiple things about me needing to thank her whenever they visit. Like… Why? 😂

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I’d just act overly ignorant in the scenarios and say stuff like: “Oh thank you for him being happy?, did you do something when I was out the room?” “Sorry I don’t know what you mean, who taught my baby to sleep well? Do you mean me or the NICU?” Don’t forget to take care of my little man - “aww aha well he takes care of himself well enough (referring to your husband) but I’ll do my best”. In the end she’ll get fed up having to justify what she means when there is no basis/logic to her comments that she’ll hopefully just stop making them…

@Amy lol I like that idea. Thanks

I’d probably say something like, ‘our boys have something in common, your little guy had a good mum and now my little one has one too/now I’ve got my own little guy to care for’ or ‘now it’s my turn to give my little one all the love you gave your little one.’ This way, you are kind of like complimenting her but also taking ownership like saying ‘he’s my my baby back off, you’ve already had your own’ I hate the ‘ownership’ thing from MIL! I kind of did something similar with my MIL and she started to kind of see that I am the one raising and responsible for her grandson, not her. Mine responds well when I strike her ego a little bit. It’s so draining though. Good luck mama. Don’t ever feel guilty to just respectfully say, ‘he is the way he is cause of all the love from his mama etc etc’ ❤️

*stroke not strike lol

@Amy oh I am his momma when he needs his diaper changed. She is a “I’ll hold the baby while you clean! I’m so helpful!” Type. But will also stop me “ohhh noo momma, someone’s stinky! I’ll take him back once he’s changed though!” And stand next to me changing him, trying to play with his hands and distract him. I was like “did you forget how?” The first time. “Oh no! You need the practice!” He’s 3months old… I’ve had enough practice. 😂 But after my tangent LOL your comment makes sense. Maybe that would work. My MIL is a self proclaimed physicist 🥹. Studying it in college 20 years ago apparently still counts. And likes to manipulate while pretending to just be spacey or aloof. Maybe an ego boost would help her think she’s won 😂

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