Family member and depression

Hi everyone. I have a question that involves depression. My mother has bipolar depression. She is on medication when doctor tells her to be, and off or lower dosage when doctor says she is doing well. She has a lot of days when she is down. Some of those days she just doesn’t want to walk to us, and on others she can’t even do anything. Besides depression, on her good days, she barely works. As helpful as she can be, she is not always nice person. She thinks she is entitled to not work and that my father should support her. That put them in financial crisis again. She dog sits sometimes or clean houses. Here is m opinion and my question. I think like she is not doing enough to help herself. I think it is easier for her (like on good days which there are still many), to blame depression for not looking for other job. I think the war she treats my father is not right either. Putting all pressure on one person to make moment. Querying is, should we be able to tell her to go and find a job? and is she does, she due feels down, should we be able to tell her to go to job anyway? I like some of you will say to support her which we did. That we should listen to her when she is down which we do. We know akl the A’s to Z’s of how to help or deal with depression, but I am wandering if we have been doing it all wrong, and sometimes you need to shake somebody up. Thanks