MIL says baby is spoiled?
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sometimes my son will be able to soothe himself back to sleep and will be in his crib all night. others he'll wake up 4x and need me or dad to get him back to sleep. go with your gut instinct. you're doing great.
Omg, no! You’re doing nothing wrong! He’s a BABY! Soak in all the contact naps and snuggles!!
Don’t let them try to push you to neglect your baby. Do what’s best for both you & your baby.
You can’t “spoil” a baby by carrying or putting them to sleep too much. I’ve carried my baby a lot since she was born and I typically like her to sleep with me because I like her close to me & she does not cry when I put her down or cry when I put her to sleep in her bassinet. Every baby is different. My baby soothes herself to sleep SOMETIMES and others wants mommy to put her to sleep. Our job is to tend to their needs. YOU ARE DOING NOTHING WRONG. You are doing great mama. You are building a great bond, teaching baby that you are always going to be there for him. Just nod & wave because at the end of the day you are the one who is taking care of him 24/7 not them. Agree to disagree maybe they just want a reaction.
Thank you so much, everyone. I really appreciate the input. Im going to keep doing what’s best for my little guy. The most important thing is that he understands that I am here and will respond to his needs. He just got to this earth for goodness sake! 😂
@Dev 🇺🇸🇮🇪 and that’s all that matters Momma! You are doing what is best for your baby and for you! 🩷🫶🏻
I do agree that somethings gotta give at some point, though. I do need him to be a little more independent when it comes to sleep. Usually around 4ish he needs to contact nap until 7. Which is a lot for me because I don’t like to sleep with him on my chest (no shame in co-sleeping, I just run a bit on the anxious side). So I hope eventually he can sleep a bit more independently.
@Dev 🇺🇸🇮🇪 that’s all you can do momma you’re doing a great job don’t let anybody tell you otherwise. Your baby isn’t “spoiled” he’s loved correctly & you’re his safe space no one can & should take that from you. I go through the same with my baby
This is the same generation who did some crazy dangerous/harmful things with their babies and caused a whole load of generational trauma and issues. Don’t worry about it. Love your baby and listen to them and their needs, not the old people.
I do not put my son in a position to self soothe. I’m his mom, I will always be there to help him when his emotions are upset so I don’t see why I need him to do that on his own as an infant.
he's a BABY!!! you can't spoil a baby. literally. They're in a stage where if you "spoil" them (pay attention to their needs) they'll develop a healthy attachment to you and know that you'll be there for them when they need you. They typically can't *completely* self soothe at this stage -- they'll just do little behaviors to mediate discomfort, but they'll still need help. And every baby is different!!